I need top gently tell a friend of a friend (and ex colleague) she is not invited to something.......

[DrNortherner]

I am organising my bosses retirement party in january.

Friend of a friend used to work at same compmany as me.

I compiled guest list with my boss, including a lot of ex employees he really liked. However, this girl he does not, she is not invited.

She has found out about party as she keeps in touch with other ex staff who are invited.

She has emailed me and texted me ASKING if she is invited. I told my boss this thinking he might say yes. But he said NO. He told me to tell her she is simply not invited.

I need to break it to her gently really don't I?

How would you want to be told?

current employees only, i am a shothouse and would lie.

Oooh don't envy you that one!

Could you tell her numbers are restricted and you are having to go by the exact list he gave you?

Custy she knows ex employees are invited because they told her!

Like the idea of saying I am simply coordinating it and am using list he drew up.

give her his email and tell her to email her queries dirctly to him?

I think you have to just tell her the truth - that boss gave you a list and her name isn't on it. If she comes back querying that the boss may have forgotten to add her name or something, then you'll have to be a bit more blunt. She might take offense, but it won't be with you.