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Does anyone else worry constantly and is just sick of it?

17 replies

AlwaysWorrying · 27/11/2008 10:12

I worry about:

Money in general
Money for xmas (and if one more person tells me it doesn't have to cost money, try travelling across the country, paying to see santa, presents for other people as they are buying for you and yours etc without it costing money)
Upsetting friends which normally leads me to doing stuff that upsets me/worries me more with the other things
Being a crap mother
Being a crap partner/wife
The state of my house
If we eat the right things
The state of my body

Surely life isn't meant to be like this? I have forgotten what it is like to not be wound up and worried.

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purplemonkeydishwasher · 27/11/2008 10:13

hell yes.

i can always find something to worry about.
(and sorry, but since when does christmas not have to cost money??)

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AlwaysWorrying · 27/11/2008 10:18

Loads of people have told me that it doesn't have to cost and isn't about stuff. I am not buying lots of stuff. I have also been told to talk to the people buying for us as they will understand - no, they don't. They have a different concept of lack of money to us and I will not let down children.

Santa is cancelled though

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saadia · 27/11/2008 10:23

I worry a lot, and if everything is fine then I will find something to worry about. I really envy those carefree people who don't let things get to them.

Baconsarnie · 27/11/2008 10:30

Yes, me too. I worry about everything, and worry that I've forgotten to worry about something (and therefore the worst will happen). What doesn't help is my DP doesn't worry about anything, so I feel I'm worrying for two. Money, my body, the house, our baby, my job. Seriously, it's getting me down.

lavenderbongo · 27/11/2008 10:31

I worry a lot about similar stuff and especially about other people in my family.

I find the way I work around it is by first thinking of one of the worst things that would happen and how I would cope (sounds wierd but it actually calms me down to think logically about it and put it in perspective).

I then think of all the things I am lucky to have in my life - which again puts things in perspective.

Hope this helps.

10krunner · 27/11/2008 10:31

I'm the same, I worry loads and at the moment unfortunately I have something to worry about and my stomach is in bits because of it, it hurts, is tense and I've got the runs because of it. Its bad when it affects your body. I know its not good for me and I try not to, I try and breathe from my stomach to relax it but it only lasts as long as I'm thinking about it.

Rhian82 · 27/11/2008 10:32

I worry about money constantly. We're lucky with Christmas as family and friends all understand our lack of money, and I do crafts so can make some small presents, but on a month by month basis I worry like anything about bills and debts. I hate it as I don't think of myself as a mercenary or materialistic person, but so much of my thinking is in terms of money.

SammyK · 27/11/2008 10:33

Yes always worrying here too am on ADS for depression and anxiety but still in a constant state of worry.

10krunner · 27/11/2008 10:33

That wouldn't work for me Lavenderbongo, the worst that could happen to me is that I could be put in prison (see my post in legal to make sense of this)

AMumInScotland · 27/11/2008 10:36

I used to worry pretty much constantly about everything, but over the years I've realised that the worrying really doesn't achieve anything and I've managed to channel my energy into doing the things I can do and not fretting about those I can't. Sorry I can't really explain how to switch from one to the other . But it doesn't have to be like that - when you catch yourself worrying about something, think through what you can or should do about it, then stop yourself from having the constant background worry/guilt about the stuff you can't change.

If you worry about being a crap mother, well we all think that some days, but try to pin down what exactly you think you are doing wrong and change it. Or realise that you're just beating yourself up for not matching some theory of perfection, and roll with it.

CatMandu · 27/11/2008 10:39

Oh yes, I totally identify with this. This weekend I realised that there was nothing pressing for me to worry about and so I ended up almost digging my mind for something. How crazy is that! I do what Lavendarbongo said, but I do think that it's made me generally pessimistic and I think it can bring others down. I am trying very hard to look on the bright side.

cheeset · 28/11/2008 11:22

Ditto AlwaysWorrying. Same as.

Pinkjenny · 28/11/2008 11:23

Yes. I worry constantly about dd. It's bloody exhausting. Every runny nose is pneumonia.

I hide the Health threads on here, they just make me worse!

girlandboy · 28/11/2008 11:30

I always have something worrying me. And when one worry has gone, it is speedily replaced by another.

Currently got the worry of:

State of the house.

Ds seems to have no self-esteem after having a crap teacher last year.

Me having constant migraines.

Had to have blood tests & and ECG this morning coz of chest pains.

Dad just been diagnosed with dementia.

Worried about mum, because she's worried about dad!

Worried that I won't be able to cope with the parent/child role reversal of the above problem.

Fortunately I don't have money worries, and I realise that I am lucky there, though it's not always been like that. So there you are, there is a little rainbow at the end of all that.

dinny · 28/11/2008 11:32

I'm always worrying, can't switch off

worry about health, giving kids/dh enough attention, giving birth to this next baby, whether dc are happy/learning at schoo - ARGH!

gio71 · 29/11/2008 09:21

am a total natural worrier, worry about anything and everything and sometimes have that worried knot in my stomach because I don't have anything specific to worry about and think am missing something! Only thing that helps me a bit is to think back over all the things and terrible possible outcomes I have worried about over the last few months and evaluate how many of the worse case scenarios I envisage have happened. Basically 95% of what I worry about never happens so I try and rationalise with myself like this. It's an ongoing battle though. I would LOVE to be one of those -live for the moment don't worry about the future- people. Life must be great!

conniedescending · 29/11/2008 09:35

gosh - this is me exactly.....I worry about everything, and if there is nothing specific to worry about I worry that I have missed something.

I am very worried about money, we are in mortgage arrears - this keeps me awake at night, I worry about xmas and how I'm going to afford it, I worry about my health, I worry about my DH and his smoking, my dd just had blood tests for constant nose bleeds and I'm scared about the results, I have to do 5-6 hrs work today from home and I'm worried about not getting it done and hence not getting paid before xmas, I'm worried because the roof is leaking and needs work doing on rotten wood but we can;t afford it so everytime it rains I feel ill and can;t relax until it stops

...............and breathe, sometimes I don't worry about any of this but it doesn;t last for long. My DH is not a worrier and that helps in that he can reason me out of some of my worst case scenario thoughts.

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