Friend really upset me... so angry and hurt

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Just got the horriblest email from a friend who is really angry with me for not coming out for her birthday bash this Saturday. I am 3 months pregnant (second time around) and overdid it on the Sat going shopping in the West End for shoes (my one pair of trainers is falling apart otherwise I NEVER would have subjected myself to the 'joys' of Oxford Street with a buggy, toddler and unhelpful partner).
Anyway, felt too whacked to go to a smoky club at 10 pm where I could only drink a bottle of beer and stand around until I could slime off. I also suspect that I am anaemic (was severly so last time) and am having blood tests this week. Have been on the Floradix big time, though don't really feel much better. Also have to get up 2-5 times a night to wee. All this she does not know, admittedly. She also has no kids of her own so does not know what it's like to be newly pg.
However, I feel so angry with her and in my rage (always a mistake) fired off a short email telling her so. Still beside myself but don't know what to do with it. Thought I could let off steam to mumsnetters.

dazednconfused, they could have at least gone to the bathroom!

Actually they did go there before. It was their activities in there originally which woke me up !

I ignored that but was pretty peeved when they started at it again when they got into bed. And of course TWICE (attempts) after my retreats into the bathroom ! (Hence my nagging feeling that I was beginning to feel they were getting a kick out of me being there).

Sorry Dazednconfused but i agree with Tinker and Beetroot. You can't really blame their desires especially with drink down them.It must of been embarrassing for you but more so for your mate the morning after,realising what she had done.At least she has said "sorry" which is the main thing.Get on with your friendship with her because when the shock dies down you will be laughing about what she done while she will be "CRINGING".

Well I've been there. Not with a friend as such. A group of us were staying in a log cabin in Japan of all places and we were all sleeping on this kind of upstairs platform. There were loads of futons pushed together- no room between them and the person next to me - um - shall we say 'started relations" with the bloke next to her.

It was a bit gross I have to say but no big deal. I suppose your BF and her dp should have paid for their own room and done what they liked in private- but I have to say I don't think it's that bad. These things happen, and in the cold light of day surely far more embarrassing for your friend than you.

DazedNConfused how horrible for you, I would have been mortified too (actually I am ashamed to admit to something very similar when I was MUCH younger)- I think it is a pretty poor way to behave when you have arranged specifically to meet BF for a night away on your own; BUT it's happened, she's apologised and as others have said, you just have to move on from these situations; it's not worth losing your friendship over.

Next time, insist on your own room!

DazedNConfused, I too would have been annoyed. If it was inevitable that they would want to have sex then they should have booked another room.

I would have been really annoyed. After all I assume this w/e was supposed to be a treat for you and a time for catching up with her - instead it sounds like she spent more time with her bloke and then to add insult to injury..... Not good enough. And if she's your BF she should know you well enough to guess how you would react.