I dread big weddings, my dp wants a big-do. Therefore we have put it off for the last 6years just simply because we cant agree (and money is also an issue). I dispise gift lists, i think they are very impersonal and vulgar. I hate the stress of being a guest, the finding something to wear and the typical after parties are too same old same old for my own personal tastes.
However i have a plan! Its something we actually both agree on and we think we are gonna go for it. Just want to run it past you lot to guage reactions.
Its dp`s 40th in march and im going to invite all our friends and family to a surprise birthday party for him, or so they will be led to believe. Everyone will be in informal smart casual clothes and the venue a local golf club. This venue is licenced for wedding ceremonies.
When the guests arrive they will be expecting to be jumping out on dp and basically the whole surprise bithday thing. But they will actually be there to see us get married instead!
We have agreed we will be telling his parents and mine the truth well in advance so they dont feel left out on the planning - but we will be insisting that its casual. We may also tell some of those who live a long way away otherwise they may choose not to come to a simple birthday party, but a wedding they would be more likely to attend. In total we would probobly only tell 10 people out of 200.
Big party after and light food and thats it!
I am even considering wearing jeans! Just for the unusualness of it - i love to be different!
What do you think? Would you be offended, upset or even angry that you had been hoaxed in this way?
Or do you think its an ace plan as i do?