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What kind of house should we buy? What worked for you?

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Allie · 11/04/2001 08:11

We are house-hunting in/near a city with a wide variety of family housing available; our kids are 6 and 3. We want to choose somewhere to suit them now and when they are teenagers.
Do we go for a suburban villa with a big garden which they'd love for 7-8 years then maybe be bored rigid? Or a terraced house nearer the centre of town with a smaller garden but within walking distance of more buzzy activities? Or a village outside the city with an established community - how do older kids get on growing up in this type of environment?
I'm curious to hear experiences - what worked or didn't work for you? Thanks!

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Sml · 11/04/2001 10:56

Go for the suburban villa - your older children will have to learn to use the bus, and the garden will be brilliant while they're young. When they're older they'll probably be pestering you to put in a swimming pool for pool parties with their friends! A study once showed that living in the suburbs was healthiest for children: town centre children get too much air pollution from other people's cars, and country children get too much pollution from their own car, as they have to be ferried everywhere.
A village isolates them too much when they're older - they have to rely totally on parents for lifts when they're teenagers (more parental control = a good thing??!). It'll be harder to get jobs until they've passed their driving tests and got a car, which is unlikely to be on the stroke of 17. And, if you're in a village, their trip to school is bound to longer, and more dependent on you, unless you're lucky enough to have a school bus or very good transport links. This is a bit of a hobby horse of mine - I believe strongly that teenagers have a hard enough time coping with school, exams, growing up etc, without lumbering them with a stressful commute to school each day!
Hope you find somewhere nice, wherever it is!

Suew · 11/04/2001 11:47

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Debsb · 11/04/2001 12:44

Allie, my children are only 3 & 5, so I can't answer for them, but I was brought up in typical suburbia, but close to local transport links & honestly think it's probably the best idea. My husband was broupt up in a village in beds, and he said it was dead as he got older. He also said that, as he had to get a bus into school, mixing with friends outside school was difficult (one bus in & one bus out) so he had to rely on Mum or bike. As a result, friends tended to be those living closest.
We have picked the suburban villa, but within walking distance of the 'village' - lots of shops, bars restaurants etc, and also walking disctance from the train station, so hopefully the kids will find a way out if they need it when they get older. Interesting, quite a few of the local university age kids have elected to continue living at home & commuting. This must say something & I'm sure its not just coz it's cheaper.

Pat · 11/04/2001 13:18

We didn't really have a choice on the type of house because of the cost in London, so we had no option but a terraced house! Because it has a small garden, the absolute MUST for us was to be close to a park. I would definitely recommend this if choosing the terrace/small garden option. It's a godsend for us come the weekend. Our two children are 3 and 5 and we spend a lot of time in the park riding bikes, visting the playground, feeding the ducks etc.
I'm sure this won't be an advantage when they're teenagers (unless they play a lot of tennis!) but it's great now.

Tigermoth · 11/04/2001 16:29

Yes, I'd choose a surburban villa too, unless money was no object. Then a big house and garden with the city buzz but a short distance from my sweeping driveway comes to mind. Ahh Holland Park...

Anyway, agree with all the advice given here, especially Smls', who raises some important points about relying on parents for lifts and commuting to school.

Having said that, I grew up in a large house in the centre of Cambridge. Once of the good things was the stream of visitors. Friends with an hour or so to kill before their bus took them home were always dropping in. This was especailly nice in my teenage years - with no brothers and sisters to liven things up socially, being at the geographical centre of things and a stone's throw away from school had its advantages - and made it easier for me to safely stay out late and get home without having to sleep over in the houses of little-known friends - or boyfriends. No late bus to miss or expensive taxi fare to pay. And I didn't have to learn to drive, so my parents didn't have to worry about my teenage driving ability, or worry that I'd be giving lifts to my friends while under the influence of alcohol.

Allie, I don't know which city you live near, obviously some city centres are more desirable places to live than others.And possibly there's a distinction between 'outer city' ánd nearly-the-country suburbia. We chose the former.

We were also keen to move to an area in which older children could play out with a good degree of safety. So we drove round the area a lot at different times to try to determine this - and to observe how the groups of children behaved. We also carefully considered traffic flow. I personaly would think twice about moving to a property set on a busy road.

I'd also say wherever you move to, try and get your children to cultivate friends from different areas. As my Cambridge friends found out, it was particularly useful to know someone who lived near the station, in case you missed that last bus or train home.

Bigmum · 11/04/2001 18:53

Hi
We moved from a small inner city 2up 2down with two children and one on the way to a completely new town about which we knew nothing. So we contacted the NCT to get hold of local branch magazines for the different sections of town and then phoned all the postnatal organisers for each area and asked them about schools, social life, activities, and also house prices and shops etc and then we looked around all the more interesting areas and schools and made sure we got ourselves on all the waiting lists for nursery places before we moved. We finally chose a house near a decent primary school and park with shops and buses to town. Not in the centre but not miles out with room for growth and teenage lifestyle. The area is packed with young families and an active NCT branch. We have been welcomed and supported from the minute we arrived and have no regrets about any part.
Good Luck with your hunting. Hope this can be of use.

Robinw · 11/04/2001 19:52

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