Opinions please on sending wedding wishes to exes

[ladystardust]

Given that it OBVIOUSLY depends on state of on going relationship, just wondered what any of you did as have such scenario looming and temptation to be sugary, sarcastic etc etc is too great.
(relations terrible btw although he is housing dd at present who will be bridesmaid)

We have good relations with DH ex wife. When she remarried we didn't acknowledge it as no idea what to say. (although we collected/dropped of Step kids that weekend so plenty of opportunity). I didn't get a card from the boys for their Mum to say congratulations as the younger one wasn't keen on the re-marriage and I didn't want to rub salt in his wounds.

No experience, but I would say avoid sarcastic wishes. Take the high moral ground and say nothing.

LadyStardust - I agree with Headfairy that sarcastic wishes etc best avoided. I am sorry that things are bad ATM but you will be parents of DD forever so best not to rock the boat further in the hope that things will not get worse.

How old is DD? Can you help her choose and write a card to her father and his new wife? That way you will have been gracious enough to acknowledge yet avoided the urge to be rude. Obviously if she is 14 or similar this won't be appropriate.

Moral high ground best place at times like these - good luck.

I know the whole moral high ground thing is, er, 'right' but quite sick of taking it - it can be a lonely place ...
Dd 16 and making her own mind up - wouldn't intrude there.
Surely a 'better luck next time' wouldn't be too distasteful ?