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Wedding Evening do - How much to give for gift (money)?

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Ally90 · 18/08/2008 19:25

We have been invited to an evening do (me, dh and dd age 2.4). The couple are saving for a kitchen, how much would be a good amount to give them towards it?

The do is at a community centre with buffet and disco.

TIA

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bythepowerofgreyskull · 18/08/2008 19:27

Crap answer but as much as you are comfortable with.
I can't say that there is a right amount.

Ally90 · 18/08/2008 19:44

Thanks, I'm just trying to guesstimate how much the do may have cost...you know buffet per head and all that...like you do with wedding gift...well that's the way I usually do it

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bythepowerofgreyskull · 18/08/2008 19:46

may have spend £10+ per head on buffet?

never thought of cost like that for buying a pressie.

Ally90 · 18/08/2008 19:55

I've been to a lot of weddings most of them to do with ex bf...often wonder at all the wedding pictures I'm on...

just never been to just a night do before. I was thinking £25...but if food is £10 per head...then the hire of disco/commnuity centre...

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bythepowerofgreyskull · 18/08/2008 19:57

Ally I would have happily said that £20-30 gift

feedmenow · 18/08/2008 20:02

Ally, I get what you're doing with the mental calculations but you shouldn't have to. I very much doubt they'll have invited you to make a profit! More likely they've invited you because they want you there.

I reckon that if couples wanted to end up not out of pocket they'd just be better off going to their local Register office!

Anyway, having been to a few evening do's myself this year I'd say £25 is fine. It is, after all, the thought that counts.

falcon · 18/08/2008 20:03

I'll keep my mouth shut on the subject of asking for cash, but you do not need to cover the cost of your meal/venue hire etc, you are their guest.

firsttimemama · 18/08/2008 20:13

£25

Ally90 · 18/08/2008 20:15

I'll go with £25...and it is a registry wedding, family only then friends and family to community centre.

Appriciate points about being a guest and being invited for our company

She is a good friend and has looked after my dd (the only person who has!) so want to get it right...but not over the top

Thanks for advice!

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Ally90 · 18/08/2008 20:15

Thanks Mama!

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somersetmum · 18/08/2008 20:20

OK, think of it like this:
How many people are going?

100 couples giving £25 per couple = £2500. That will pay for about half of their kitchen.

150 couples giving £30 = £4500.

100 couples giving £50 per couple = £5000. Wow!

So, your gift may appear quite small but would be a contribution to a very generous wedding gift imo.

Ally90 · 19/08/2008 20:06

Thanks...didn't think of it that way

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Debra99 · 14/06/2019 18:31

As evening guests, how much cash should we give as a wedding gift?

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