Tactful Poo Comment

[Bugsy]

Ok, need a bit of help with a delicate matter here. Every week, I meet up with a bunch of mums and offspring. One of the girls (3.25 yrs old) in the group is rather prone to accidents, not just in the wee department but with the old poos too.
Yesterday, she must have done a small poo in her pants or not wiped herself properly and because she was wearing a skirt with no tights I ended up wiping up smears of poo from various parts of my house (including my ds's bed where they had all been jumping up and down).
Fairly early on in the afternoon, I realised that there was something amiss and bar rushing into her mother and shouting "Oh my God, X has got poo in her pants" I dropped as many delicate hints as possible.
This is not the first time this has happened (fortunately not in my house last time) and I know that it is an area of some considerable stress to her mother.
Can any of you think of raising the subject with minimal humilation for mother and daughter? Or should I just resign myself to having to wipe poo and or wee out of my carpets / furniture when this little girl comes around?

The mother must be having a nightmare with this so I wouldn't be too hard on her. If the subject of potty training crops up again perhaps you could suggest she puts her dd in pull ups if she is away from home for the time being. And keep reassuring her she will grow out of it soon!

I do think if there is a next time you should mention it to the mother - she will probably be more embarrassed if she knew you were going round cleaning up after her dd than if you quietly menioned that you thought her dd had had an accident.

Personally, if you discovered the problem while they were still there, I would mention it in a light hearted manner. I wouldn't mention it however after they have left or on another occassion. Am a bit surprised she wasn't wearing tights in February.

I had a girl like that who took nearly a year of potty training, she was commenly known as Poppy Poohy Pants (not in earshot!) I think it must have been more than not wipeing properly, and a real poo to leave smears around the house, therefore I would try to be very careful about what I said. Poppy would never tell me if she had pooed her pants, so I only knew if I smelt it This made things difficult if she was playing at someone elses house, she I would be hyper aware, your friend is probably the same. I think as a mother I would prefer that I was told at the time (if anyone noticed before I did) but after the event I would be soooo embarassed. I think in your situation, since you noticed at the time, I would have bluntly said 'I think X needs a quick change' rather than drop hints. This way the change could be done, and you wouldn't have had a pooey mess to clear up. You don't need to humiliate anyone by saying it bluntly, it is far more humiliating as a mother to find out afterwards and realsie that your kid is responsible for pooey smears all over another persons house. Delecate hints are not working, so just be honest, without causing a fuss.

I had a girl like that who took nearly a year of potty training, she was commenly known as Poppy Poohy Pants (not in earshot!) I think it must have been more than not wipeing properly, and a real poo to leave smears around the house, therefore I would try to be very careful about what I said. Poppy would never tell me if she had pooed her pants, so I only knew if I smelt it This made things difficult if she was playing at someone elses house, she I would be hyper aware, your friend is probably the same. I think as a mother I would prefer that I was told at the time (if anyone noticed before I did) but after the event I would be soooo embarassed. I think in your situation, since you noticed at the time, I would have bluntly said 'I think X needs a quick change' rather than drop hints. This way the change could be done, and you wouldn't have had a pooey mess to clear up. You don't need to humiliate anyone by saying it bluntly, it is far more humiliating as a mother to find out afterwards and realsie that your kid is responsible for pooey smears all over another persons house. Delecate hints are not working, so just be honest, without causing a fuss.

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Thank you all. I will say something if / when it happens again.
Bells, I was surprised by no tights too, but apparently fairies don't wear them!!!!