Flowers for new mum and dad

[thumper]

I think this is a silly question, but ... just about to send flowers to new parents and got stuck on whether you address them to both mum and dad or just mum? Can't remember what I have done in the past. Have already sent a card obviously to both, but wondered if flowers were just to mum, or does it matter? TIA

I would say mum and dad as it takes two even though mum did the hard work to get the end result. I think a 'dad' would be quite upset to think he was being excluded from your well wishes.

Yes, much as it galls me to say, sending them to the Mum and Dad is probably appropriate. Obviously put the mother's name first though!

DH didn't deserve any though, he just complained how boring the labour had been.

Thanks for the reassurance, Bluestar. That's what I thought really, but just had a niggle about it for some reason.

thumper, if it is not too late i would say don't send flowers. we got so many, we ran out of vases, they started to rot after a couple of days and in general created a lot of work for us at a time when we really didn't need anything extra to cope with. champagne and chocolates - addressed to both mum and dad?

thumper, if it is not too late i would say don't send flowers. we got so many, we ran out of vases, they started to rot after a couple of days and in general created a lot of work for us at a time when we really didn't need anything extra to cope with. champagne and chocolates - addressed to both mum and dad?

Well we only got them from Mum and MIL...

I got 12 lots and in the end i was putting them in pint glasses because i had so many. A bottle of wine or champagne was good, i got a bottle from sil and drank it about 6 months later, but was nice when we did. Mind you, i got pi**ed on a glass.

Didn't get any chocs or wine either ...

I do agree with what you are saying about receiving all the flowers - actually we also got masses of them, mil eventually took control and found all sorts of things to put them in, BUT I do remember someone sending a bouquet about three weeks after the birth, when the others had all died, and it was all looking bare, and it cheered things up again, thought it was a nice touch, so that was basically my idea. But then again, mm champagne .. now i'm really confused.

Aaaah Bozza, do you want me to send them to you instead?

Thumper - that's a really good idea to send them a few weeks later, I found too that I had so many flowers, chocs, champagne & presents (I know, I was very spoilt) for the first few days that it was wonderful when a parcel arrived a few weeks later ..... just as reality had set in! The worse thing is getting flowers in hospital & there is nothing to put them in.

Ooh Thumper yes please.....

Actually just wanted to agree that sounds like a lovely idea. Because really my two big bouquets were sufficient at one time.

Getting flowers was lovely, but I agree about the vase problem, and even the effort of dealing with them seemed to much at the time. The best ones we had came already in a container, that just had to be topped up with water. I'd have thought they should be to both Mum and Dad, but I don't suppose they'd be terribly offended either way.

I like the look of those special fruit baskets people sometimes send - dunno who does them, local greengrocers I suppose