swearing at your kids

[rhubarby]

does anyone else swear at their kids i feel i am the only person in the world

At least I get mine legal!

hmm

I can't work out if all this is said in jest or if you're being serious...I hope you're all just having a laugh....

That spat made me smile - I presume you two are pals
Back to the original posting, I admit I have sworn at my kids in pure frustration and anger, but my goodness they know they have overdone it when that happens. I do feel bad, I know it is wrong and setting a bad example.
No they do not swear at home, they also know it is wrong.

What they do outside the home isn't known to me. My parents hardly swore yet I swore like a trooper with my friends at school - obviously not in front of teachers.
Children are not daft - they know that bad language is wrong. The problem is where parents use swearing in everyday language, therefore producing children who swear all the time.

Have I let my mumsnet halo slip?

Hear hear mears. You'd have to be superhuman not to show frustration at what can be very frustrating. I think as long as you treat your children with respect most of the time a little bit of anger/swearing isn't going to hurt.

I get the impression that what Rhubarb and Custardo were trying to do (amply proven by the way girls!) was show us all how pathetic we all sound when we bicker! Should that comment have a after it I wonder? Or should I have said 'I'm not being funny...' before I started?

BTW, I WASN'T having a go! Just trying to be ironic

Here is my impression of a psychologist...Take me back to your childhood...
Now, did your parents swear at you?

I will admit to letting a bl**dy slip in now and then, or cr@p occasionally, but nothing worse...dh will sometimes use the f word when he loses the plot completely. But the kids know this means they have really pushed it OTT. They don't use it, and I think have only ever heard dd use the b word a few times muttered under her breath, which I ignore.

Our neighbours are a different kettle of fish. Both the mum and dad swear like troopers and SHOUT at the kids at the tops of their voices, really cruel and nasty stuff, name-calling, the lot, with the f's and sh's and d'hds and all. I do find this offensive, and it upsets me if we are in the yard and my kids can hear it. I think their kids have very low self-esteem (understandably), and also know that they swear a lot themselves. I am hoping dd isn't going to be in the girl's class this year, in fact.

So basically, IMHO the odd slip is only human, but perpetual verbal abuse is a definite no-no.

so its me who lives next door to you is it mollipops?

I use the Bl*y word when I want it make DS realise that he's crossed the line....or when I've lost the plot and need a rant. But thats a bad as it gets. DH occaisonally (spelling) get a few harsher words in his direction when the boys are asleep or there's no chance of hearing them.

I dunno, I think Rhubarb and Custardo had a few drinks, were bored and decided to have a laugh...correct me if I'm wrong! They made me laugh anyway, water feature indeed

Let slip bl*y when I'm really mad - perhaps I do it more than I think though. DS2 (5), got totally frustrated the other day when I'd said "No" to something, got al red in the face and shouted "Bl**dy Mummy!!" at me! Oops! The shame - have watched myself very carefully since!

I'm confused! Is rhubarby Rhubarb? Or have I lost the plot as usual?!

Rhubarb and custardo ... LOL!
Talking of swearing ... My parents never swore AT us ... but they did swear. There is a difference (I think) between swearing AT somebody and swearing ABOUT things. My mum swore when she stubbed her toe, burned her hand on the oven or at times she would be heard swearing under her breath whilst banging pots and pans in the kitchen after my dad or one of us had p*d her off.
We grew up knowing it was wrong to swear and so none of us now goes round swearing AT people but you will find me swearing under my breath if something annoys me ... and you will find me swearing whilst banging pots and pans loudly when DH has p*d me off!!!!!
The other day I stubbed my toe and said s**t really loudly after which DS who was playing with his toys started saying it so I felt suitably guilty and we had to have a talk about it being a bad word and mummy didn't mean to say it and won't say it again ...

Had really stressful day few weeks ago, got stuck in traffic driving round a town in the dark, hence running late to collect ds2 from a party, arrived at the place and no parking free, in my stress I said "great-now theres no bly spaces in the bly carpark" DS1 (9) said "oh mummy- 2 swear words in one sentence-thats terrible even for you" Made me laugh even if I did feel guilty!

Lol miqqy!

To my knowledge, my mother has never uttered a swearword - I've not even heard her go as far as to say "damn". She has a whole selection of inoffensive alternatives. I have no idea how she managed it when me and my brothers were growing up...

S'alright girls, we woz just 'aving a larf! Actually, I used to swear like a trooper, so even my dh was a bit ashamed of me at times, it became a habit. Now dd is picking things up, I try to limit my language, but this is extremely difficult when having a row with dh or when I'm on a PMT day. So she has picked up the word 'bloody' and, I'm sorry to say, 'f*k'! Makes you realise just how often you tell your dh to bloody well f*k off!