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what do you think of this?

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cheeryface · 25/06/2008 21:56

for the 4th year running ds school is having 'grandparents day'

the grandparents come to school, sit in classroom, look at work, play out, have dinner with child and then the children put on a show for them.

only trouble is, letter states, only grandparents and no alternatives.

so, ds2 has no grandparents to attend as is for a few i assume. but they will be sat in a crowded classroom while all the other grannies are ooing and ahhing and then they will have to put on a dance / show for them too.

i think it is mean.

ds2 will feel so left out

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notasheep · 25/06/2008 21:57

Whatever next and 4 years running too!

southeastastra · 25/06/2008 21:58

it's weird, i noticed one of our local schools recently had a fathers day, where dads went to school for the day.

don't know what to make of it really.

cmotdibbler · 25/06/2008 22:00

I think there should def be allowance made for not having any grandparents around (either alive, geographically distant, or not in touch), and they'd be allowed to have another special person come in. Seems cruel to make children all the more aware of not having them around.

Yurtgirl · 25/06/2008 22:01

Has your ds got an Auntie or Uncle perhaps? If he has I would insist that as your ds has no grandparents he should be allowed an auntie or uncle instead

Or a godparent, or an adult family friend who knows your ds well

Hulababy · 25/06/2008 22:04

DD's school had grandparent's day in preprep. But it is only the afternoon and consists of tea and cake, followed by a short concert, and thn the chance for the child to sho them round the classroom.

However ours is open to all parents, grandparents and any other significant people in te child's life. Oh, and some of the elderly residents from the two local nursing homes came for the tea and concert too.

mazzystar · 25/06/2008 22:05

I think it's unfair to specify

My dcs only have one surviving grandparent, and I know we are certainly not alone in that.

Unless the school can organise a kind of adopt-a granny thing

southeastastra · 25/06/2008 22:07

my dad would also be seriously peed off and having to attend it

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cheeryface · 25/06/2008 22:11

i would go myself for him but i'm not allowed!
my friends child has no grandparents either and she was told that she couldn't be the replacement.

what would you all think if i said i would keep him home?

i am tempted

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cheesesarnie · 25/06/2008 22:14

id not keep him home but go!you go and if they say anything tell them theyre discriminating againgst children who dont have grandparents.i think its mad!its lovely idea but they should realise that not everyone has grandparents!

pointydog · 25/06/2008 22:15

dds' school once had an 'Older people's Day' or something like that. So it could be gps or any old relative or neighbour.

Dds still didn't have anyone who could go.

Dd didn't feel particularly lefy out but if it happened 4 years on the trot and she was always guestless, I'd be a bit narked.

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cheeryface · 25/06/2008 22:18

thing is, they won't be doing much work anyway it will probably be chaos.
i am annoyed. he has had to practice a dance for weeks which he hates doing, just so he can perform it to...well, nobody special !

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herbietea · 25/06/2008 22:19

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Sazisi · 25/06/2008 22:19

You and your friend should go and talk to the head about it, see if you can get her/him to see your pov.
Or just turn up on the day

Hassled · 25/06/2008 22:21

This sounds absolutely mad - they might as well just call it "Let's Remind Small Children About Death" Day.

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cheeryface · 25/06/2008 22:32

yep indeed!

it's tomorrow.
i should have thought this through a bit sooner, if you had grandparents attending then you had to book them a dinner so i can't even go insisting i have dinner instead now can i !

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cheesesarnie · 25/06/2008 22:33

you can take a packed lunch.seriously go!!if not i'll go.im 30 but i'll be a grandparent for a day!

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cheeryface · 25/06/2008 22:36

lol i'll dress up and get my walking stick out ! i'm 32b but i'm sure i'll pass!

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cheeryface · 25/06/2008 22:37

32 not 32b

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handlemecarefully · 25/06/2008 22:41

What a crap policy re no alternatives to grandparents!

pointydog · 25/06/2008 22:45

However, a lot of children don't have parents who are able or willing to attend events. That's just how it is and the children deal with it well enough. Isn't an appreicative audience motivation enough?

handlemecarefully · 25/06/2008 23:00

No.

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cheeryface · 25/06/2008 23:00

i have been to absolutely everything that has ever been on at school, it really goes against my grain that he will have no one there

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cheeryface · 25/06/2008 23:01

he hates doing the dance , he feels daft. i would be thinkin y the balls should i do it if i don't have any one here for me anyway !

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pointydog · 25/06/2008 23:02

The solutions then are to ban all performances because some children won't have anyone they know in the audience
or
give children the option ofnot performing if they have no one in the audeince which will be a logistical nightmare
so it's back to banning events/performances

pointydog · 25/06/2008 23:03

what do you think the solution is, cheery?