Feeling sensitive

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So I know I’m being overly sensitive here however I had a baby 3 months ago and since then my husband has been doing pick up and drop off at school to help me out. In that time he’s managed to get himself into the click as it were. They invite him for coffee and text him.
im really pleased he has made friends however I tried really hard to make friends when my daughter started school 2 years ago but it just didnt happen.
Im no where near as confident and chatty as my husband but can’t help but sting a little. I don’t know why I’m posting there no advice to give just needed to vent I guess

Actually it was pretty much the same for us, in fact DP became a SAHP for a while and I went back to work (with relief!) I honestly didn't feel that it stung, I am not that sociable whereas he is - so unsurprisingly he made friends and I didn't bother. People gravitate to those they get on easiest with - that's why he has made some friends. But ultimately most of the friendships are transient anyway. I wouldn't worry about it.

You don’t sound overly sensitive to me. You’ve just had a baby and it’s really hard, especially when you have other children. Is there anything else going on?

I’m dealing with postpartum anxiety and depression which I don’t think helps. In all honesty I don’t know why it’s bothered me.

Sorry you are struggling OP.

I can totally understand this and likely something you won't care so much about once you are feeling better and more recovered from the birth.

If he's naturally outgoing, it's probably easier to make friends through finding overlapping interest, plus possibly novelty factor, since even you say he's "helping out" (you), rather than simply doing his parenting duty, taking his DC to school.

It could also be they are making an effort in their way to support your family and/or their interest piqued following birth of new baby - being friendly towards him, since he's the one who's currently there.

Hopefully there will be a shift in the dynamic now anyway and you will have more of a sense of being welcome and belonging once you re-engage with school.

As PP said, these type of friendships are transient anyway.

I really appreciate the advice and it has helped. We are chalk and cheese and he’ll talk to anyone where as I’m quite shy and don’t. The postpartum depression and anxiety definitely clouding how I’m feeling at the moment. Again thanks everyone