I recently found out my DM is not well again.
2024 she had gotten lung cancer and had a lobotomy removing 3 quarters of one lung.
2025 she had a scan and was told she needed radio therapy and completed the course in December. I’m under the impression she hasn’t had any results yet as she hasn’t told me.
She has been really unwell the past few weeks and had a hospital appointment yesterday where she was told the lung which she had the lobotomy on has collapsed. She has told me that it should re-inflate itself but I have researched this and because of her previous surgery it can be life threatening, and my mind is doing absolute backflips.
I told my partner this today when he was at work as I didn’t want him coming home and doing his usual singing football songs and being loud, just wanted a quiet few hours while our DD would be at gymnastics.
He told me he was there for me and I thanked him. A few hours later when he got home I was sitting on the sofa expressionless watching SpongeBob as it was left on the tv, clearly upset as I’d usually be up and doing chores. I said ‘hi you okay’ and he said ‘hi’ put on his headphones, and started singing football songs and walking around the house singing and dancing. He still hasn’t acknowledged anything and I have barely said more than 2 words to him, it’s as if he thinks everything is normal.
I suppose I’m just wondering what people’s views are on this as I feel pretty alone in my thoughts right now, also it’s not as if he doesn’t know how to talk to me about it, he’s always there for all of his friends, he also lost his dad to lung cancer in 2018 so I thought he would have been more sympathetic towards me