How to support my 10 year old who’s grieving

[kc1990]

hey my best friend / brother died last weekend. We always called each other brother and sister he called my kids his nephew and niece has their names tattooed so he was a huge part of our family! My son who’s 10 is showing signs of depression and anxiety also waiting flor tests to be done ( adhd & anxiety ) I’m not taking him to the funeral he also said he doesn’t think he would cope going. I Was wondering if anyone had ideas how he can say goodbye with my self and my daughter. Something special as he was our world the best person thank you if you read this and have any suggestions xx

When my mum died, I did take my kids to the funeral. They would have been about 8 and 11 at the time. However I get that it’s a very personal choice and if your son is saying that he wouldn’t cope, you are right to listen to him.

Another thing we did was plant a flowering bush in the corner of the garden (one of my mums favourites) which is in memory of her and a nice spot for reflection in the summer months.

However, you should consider bereavement counselling for them. I grew up with a close family friend who was as close as a blood relative to me. Some people with traditional families may not appreciate how significant the loss would be. I’m so sorry for yours. Have a look into Winston’s Wish, also the NSPCC website and ask their schools to check in with them and keep an eye.