Hello,
my baby is 5 months old and I will be returning to work either 2/3 days a week when my baby is 10 months old.
My problem is my mam has always helped me with my childcare with my 3 children from a previous relationship and now when I return to work my current partner wants his mam and dad to help
with childcare but only with my 10 month old.
i get on with my partners parents and I know they are trustworthy people but my worry/issue is
is that my partners mam claims disability and has someone down as a carer for them because she cannot walk without a walker and some days cannot get down the stairs as she has some spinal issues.
His dad is in ill health also with copd and heart problems.
when we go to visit both of them they struggle to hold my baby for more than a few minutes and if they do they have to be seated at a dinning room table and use the table as support or have my baby lying down on the table with a changing Matt.
I have brought the subject up twice now that I don’t feel they can physically look after my baby when I return to work and that I would be worried for safety. My partner truly believes that they are capable and we end up just arguing about it.
i don’t want to argue anymore or fall out with him over this but my maternity leave has been full of anxiety constantly worrying over this when I have to return to work.
some days I feel that worried I feel like not going back at all so that won’t have to argue about childcare and can just stay with my baby.
my partners parents both claim they cannot work and other benefits such as carers and disability (unsure of the exact names as I don’t know benefit system). Does anyone know how claiming those things would co-inside looking after a grandchild as to me it contradicts the benefits that are being claimed? As looking after a child that small is a very difficult/demanding & physical job.
I suppose I’m just looking to find out if anyone has been in a similar situation to me and can offer any support or advice?