Baby number 2 - tips on how to make it easier, DC1 with adhd

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Baby number 2 arrived in August. DD1 is 5.5 and has adhd (pursuing diagnosis), and struggles with bedtimes (9:30pm+ atm that she goes to sleep and we need to lie with her (when I say we’ve tried everything it really feels we have.. we’ve always had a very consistent bedtime routine)) and big emotions/meltdowns which at the moment includes hitting myself and husband when upset. She is amazing with her little brother and absolutely adores him, no signs of jealousy directed at him etc.

I got a mastitis infection 3 weeks ago and ended up in hospital, developed sepsis. My milk supply tanked and I’m currently trying to wean, which I am really torn about (I think it’s best for my MH as I’m worried about being that ill again, but I intended to do 6mo+ and feel a bit robbed). Since hospital I’ve really struggled being physically exhausted and emotionally and it feels like the wheels have come off a bit, whereas before things were going well - 1-2 felt easier than 0-1.

I guess I’m just looking for tips and reassurance that this will get easier.

I don't have any experience with ND, but I do with mastitis and the feeling of physically being floored when you add your second to the family. Right now, focus on recouping your health and all else will feel easier soon. 💐

You've done amazing to BF for the early days, and its natural to grieve the journey you wanted. Take a good vitamin and omega 3s, get on a probiotic to help recover from the antibiotics, and once baby is taking a bottle hand them to your partner for a block of night shifts.

Once you're well in yourself you can find your feet as a family of 4. It absolutely will get easier, and no wonder it feels hard right now when you were so seriously ill.

Thank you @Festivewishes, I do need to get back on it with vitamins and supplements as feeling a bit depleted at the moment! And 🤞🏻 that things feel better soon xx