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Any fellow criers out there?!

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BaileyHorse · 08/11/2025 18:49

I cry at so much. Happy, sad, tv programs, good, bad…everything! It drives me round the bend.

Hoping to hear from any fellow criers an any tips to help/ try and stop sometimes would be very welcome!

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HelterSkelter224 · 08/11/2025 23:15

I cry all the time! Not like bawling my eyes out but ANYthing that gives me even slightly heightened emotions raises a lump in my throat which is so embarrassing when it happens in work etc. There’s nothing actually wrong with me and I’m not upset but for whatever reason I just cannot stop myself from welling up!!!!! So no advice I’m afraid just I understand what you mean!!!

swingingbytheseat · 08/11/2025 23:16

Yeah, I find it alleviate stress… a lot and I feel sort of clearer and open afterwards

dicentra365 · 08/11/2025 23:22

Yes me. I remember my mum being the same at my age (mid-late 40s). I asked her recently, she’s in her 70s - she says it doesn’t happen any more. She would weep buckets through any remotely sad/happy film and we would all tease her about it (kindly) and now Im exactly the same! I very rarely cry about things happening in my life but on a bad day you only need to show me a picture of a new baby animal and Im welling up.

Echobelly · 08/11/2025 23:24

I can raise my hand to this. I've got better as time has gone on, but I'll cry at anything, I'll cry at sad bits in kids' programmes or in films that are totally rubbish. TBH mostly it's not a problem - the worst thing, although I think I am getting better, is I used to cry at getting even kind, well-meant constructive criticism, which was really embarrassing but I think I can cope with that better now.

@swingingbytheseat - I totally get that. There are a few pieces of classical music in particular that really set me off and every now and then I'll put one on full blast and have a good cry. It can be a very good treatment for tension headaches.

Cliveatnight · 09/11/2025 00:28

I’m the complete opposite. I can’t cry however bad I feel even when I am suicidal.
Sometimes it would be helpful to show how bad I feel

Bufftailed · 09/11/2025 00:28

All the time. Not trying to stop though 😂

nodogz · 09/11/2025 00:30

Any emotion outside normal levels (happy, sad, angry, frightened, tired, overwhelmed, nostalgic) and I start to cry. And I am an ugly crier.

My son learnt the Beatles song blackbird in primary school. The memory of his six year old self practicing it - singing his pure little heart out - sends me into immediate sobs.

I spent the first 35 years of my life thinking I was weak but now I just say I have big feelings. I think I do feel feelings intensely, I find a lot of joy in stuff other people think is averageSmile

swingingbytheseat · 09/11/2025 21:14

I just saw the Bruce Springsteen film and there’s a very beautiful scene in it where he cries. I think sometimes i don’t even realise that having a big cry can be such a good pressure release.
@nodogz me too and I just cried during the Bruce Springsteen film as well 🤣
It’s definitely not weak. It just means you feel a lot and are sensitive, like all creative people

swingingbytheseat · 09/11/2025 21:17

@Echobelly I really agree it can ease a tension headache. It can also just stop me being in a bad mood.

Echobelly · 09/11/2025 21:29

Crying to music can be a problem as a performer. My choir's next concert features a piece I love but totally makes me cry - below - and there are some solo songs like that which I want to sing but have to stop myself from sobbing when I do so!

Lindy2 · 09/11/2025 21:31

Oh gosh yes. I'm a cryer. I honestly can't stop it. It just happens and can actually be quite embarrassing at times.

I'm pretty level headed but raised emotions of sadness or happiness and the tears are there.

I cry at films, music and even books. I had to pick what I read carefully when I commuted by train especially after trying to read "The Lovely Bones" on my way into London once. 😭

Really embarrassingly I had a very stressful time with my teenager a couple of years ago which involved lots of school and medical meetings. I had to warn everyone at the start of each meeting that I was prone to tears, I couldn't help it and to please just carry on with the meeting regardless. They must of all thought I was absolutely nuts or about to have a complete breakdown. I hate to think what they wrote in their notes about me!

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BaileyHorse · 09/11/2025 21:37

Well i am very pleased to not be alone! It seems it’s more common than I thought.

I completely agree with the embarrassing part and I think it’s that that makes me want to have some ideas of how to stop it when it happens when I really don’t want it too. A few years ago at NYE I made a New Year’s resolution to my family and said I’m not going to hide it anymore as feel I do quite a lot as feel so silly doing it!

I absolutely do warn people I’m a crier but still doesn’t save the embarrassment and also an ugly/red faced cryer too!

Also agree it can really help sometimes for sure 🥲

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zazazaaarmm · 09/11/2025 21:41

I am a terrible sap
I cry mostly at happy emotional, feelgood things.
Kids singing if I know them or not makes me cry every single time. I discovered this when I watched my step daughters nativity. I had only met her mum a few times (we get on great) but it was mortifying as DDSs mum and Nan looked at me like I was deranged.

I since discovered its all children singing. My kids used to laugh at me.

They all now also turn to look at me in emotional bits in films to take the piss out my tears, little fuckers😂

Thia weekend alone I cried at both minute silences at sport eventI was playing at, at 2 shite xmas adverts, and at the thought of my healthy 5 year old dog dying.

I also cry when being mildly criticised, even slightly at work. That is mortifying.

FullOfMomsense · 09/11/2025 21:42

I'm such a crier! Which is funny because a lot of people who know me well think I look stern to everyone else, but they know I cry at everything!

Echobelly · 09/11/2025 21:42

I don't know if anyone else found this, but the worst thing about being a child who cried a lot was adults who thought you were doing it for attention/sympathy/to get out of things. I just wanted the ground to open up and swallow me and for everyone to ignore me when I was crying!

And when I came across adults who said things like 'stop being a brat' or 'you won't get any sympathy from me' (though it was fortunately quite rare) it had a really profound effect - it made my crying episodes even worse because not only was I embarrassed but now I felt that everyone thought I was a horrible, attention-seeking brat for crying. 😔

BravebutBroken · 09/11/2025 21:48

Me 🙋🏻‍♀️ mostly when my kids do anything that makes me remotely proud. Teacher says something nice - I cry. Watch them in an assembly - I cry. Try to read their school report - I cry. The kids are used to it and just go "oh here she goes again" but I'm so choked I can't talk which does my head in when I'm trying to sound rational! 😂

HangingOver · 09/11/2025 21:51

I always cry at people winning things. The Olympics has me in bits.

Beekman · 09/11/2025 21:53

I really enjoy a good cry at the cinema. I actively pick weepy films for this. I usually go in the afternoon alone and there are lots of people in there doing the same.

ithinkilikethislittlelife · 09/11/2025 21:58

I always cry. My son put on UP the other day and sat watching me waiting for me to cry 😢. Then we went and watched Mary poppins and I said I didn’t cry at that film. I did cry almost at the start. I forgot how neglected the kids are at the start. I am a shocker at crying. And I actively seek out the tearjerkers. currently watching the John Lewis advert 😭

TheHairInClaudiasEyes · 09/11/2025 22:09

I cry at anything, seeing the castle at Disney, a beautiful dance on Strictly, the first line of Rufus Wainwright singing You Were Always On My Mind, nimrod by Elgar, a happy ending to a film, a sad ending to a film, being told that my niece, nephew’s partner and son’s girlfriend were expecting. When first dates on tv go really well. Like I said, I cry at anything but my philosophy is better out than in.

Rubyupbeat · 09/11/2025 22:33

I am the opposite, I never, ever cry. I have very recently lost 2 people that I loved very much, and my beautiful, beautiful dog, but I didn't shed a tear, not one. My insides are shredded to bits, , my heart is broken, but no tears.
When my Mum died many years ago, I never stopped crying, I wonder if I cried out all of my tears? I wish I could cry.

Pipersouth · 09/11/2025 22:36

I wasn’t - then it seems menopause provided that as a one of the special gifts. I cried today (silently) at the Last Post

JudgeBread · 09/11/2025 22:39

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Especially annoying when I have to have a serious/difficult conversation with someone and have to preface it with "I am going to cry while we're talking, please just ignore it and focus on what I'm saying, I have almost zero control over this".

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BaileyHorse · 10/11/2025 22:17

I am so glad to know I am not alone! A lot of fellow ‘deep feelers’ (as I often refer to myself!) out there.

I laughed at myself this morning when before 7am I had cried at a very old episode of one born every minute… 🙈

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Dragonsfrontooth · 10/11/2025 22:24

Im a crier and i struggle to have any control. I had to stop watching This is US because I sobbed so much. After one particular episode my face was still swollen the next day - I think I blocked a tear duct! I cry at anything sentimental or happy. Funerals even if I didn't know the person that well (say husband of acquaintance) I'm sobbing and it's a bit embarrassing.