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Shit Scared-think i've got a stalker

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J2O · 05/06/2008 16:02

my neigbours just told me that he and his next door neighbour have seen a man spying through my fence late on a night on more than one occasion, I haven't noticed anyone but then i can't see from my windows over the fence. do i inform the police or just be extra careful? am on my own with 2 dds btw

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BecauseImWorthIt · 05/06/2008 16:05

I would call the police, but ask your neighbours to be there when/if they come round.

Mercy · 05/06/2008 16:09

Do you know your neighbours reasonably well, especially the one who told you? Could they give a description of the person and the time he was seen?

If so, I would call you local police station and explain what has happened.

Don't panic, it may be absolutely nothing to worry about.

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J2O · 05/06/2008 16:26

well i don't know him that well, i know him to say hello, he is the grandad of one of dds friends and quite old, i asked if he thought he was 'casing the joint' as in looked like a burglar, as got burgled while n the bath in Dec, but he dismissed that and said he thinks he's just a peeping Tom. he described him as in his 40s and bald and has seen him on a copule of occasions this week, I am reluctant to ask him to speak to the police as he didn't seem that worried.

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mellyonion · 05/06/2008 16:33

i would phone your local station and report it....it may be that a local patrol can randomly check your street when they're passing...

make sure you keep your curtains drawn when its dark and you have the lights on, so he can't watch you.

i had a stalker when i was in school...police took it very seriously, and he ended up being charged. was really horrible.

you have nothing to lose by making the phonecall...better a fuss about nothing, than do nothing and ending up in danger with a nasty blioke...

hope you're not too worried...just saying be cautious. x

Mercy · 05/06/2008 16:36

I'd still speak to a police officer tbh. They will decide what to do and who to ask for a description etc.

Let us now how you get on.

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J2O · 05/06/2008 16:36

thanks everyone, we've got a local travelling 'copshop' i think i'll pop there now and se if its open, if not i'll go tommorrow, will let you all know what is said

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inzidoodle · 05/06/2008 17:31

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J2O · 05/06/2008 18:08

think they've only noticed this week inzi, the copshop has now moved so i'll ring them when the girls are in bed, suppose i'd better invest in some curtains that i can actually close too!

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alicet · 05/06/2008 20:04

I will second the others honey and say to call the police - better to make a fuss about nothing than find yourself in a nast situation especially with your dd's.

Look after yourself!

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J2O · 05/06/2008 20:09

have rung the police, she said get the neighbour to ring them if he see's anyone again, she didn't even take any details will try and get hold of one of the local ones if i see them around, they're usually more helpful!

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FloriaTosca · 05/06/2008 22:32

Glad you phoned them even if they didnt take any details. Do ask the neighbour to phone the police if they see him hanging around again and tell your local bobbies (they care more about what goes on on their patch) And, yes, get yourself some good full curtains or blinds....and perhaps invite a friend with a noisy dog to come round on a couple of evenings and let the dog play near the fence.

AnyasMum07 · 07/06/2008 15:32

I would agree with everyone else - it's worth making the police aware, especially the local ones. Do you have a security light? Might be worth thinking about.

madamez · 07/06/2008 15:54

I don't want to sound patronizing but there is also the possibility that the elderly neighbour is mistaken (ie the man was simply passing by and stopped to light a fag or something) or possibly even malicious (there is someone he dislikes and wants to spread rumours about and cause trouble for). Agree with whoever said ask the neighbour to call the police if he sees the man again though.

Have you any reason to think that any specific individual is after you? Have you a nasty ex, or do you owe any money? If not, it may be nothing at all to worry about.

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J2O · 07/06/2008 20:31

a security light is a good idea, neighbour isn't that elderly, I don't think he would have mentioned it if he didn't think he ought to, oh and when i told my friend about it that was here on Wed night, he decided to tell me he'd seen someone out the front, looking in but didn't really think nothing of it, thought it was maybe someone with a dog or something. I don't owe any money, haven't got an ex fitting that description and have no reason to think that any of them would put anyone up to it.

my dad is coming tommorrow to put some wire round the top of the fence so it'll be more difficult to climb over.

until then, i've been going to my bedroom when it gets dark so noone can see me!

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J2O · 07/06/2008 20:33

oh madamez, neighbour said he definately saw someone looking through the gap in fence and his neighbour saw someone a different night too, out of their bedroom windows, i can't think of who it could be if it is someone i know

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