Every morning I get up at half 6, whether my 2.5 yr old is up or not, so does my husband but he struggles to wake up, he spends 15 to 20 minutes on the toilet and then showers (Diet issues). Whilst I get the toddler changed, dressed, then make him breakfast whilst navigating watching him ensuring he's safe, then I'll pack his rucksack for daycare, once he's playing on the floor I'll go quickly throw some clothes on and by that time it's time to get him out the door, my husband will then be showered and walk to day care with us unless he's left everything too late and has to go logon. Some things to note, we both are fully 100% remote and work 8am-4:30pm. My husband does afternoon pick up whilst I cook the family dinner.
I've spoken to my husband this morning that I'm getting very tired, and I need things more equal and he said it's impossible to get things completely 50/50 but if we want to do swaps on who showers in the morning we can, he thinks that will stress me out more as I am autistic and like routines to never change.
I feel like I've taken control of mornings and it works so well and is so efficient he doesn't wanna rock the boat, when he has done a morning he spends it trying to find a nappy, making breakfast the wrong way (our son is suspected ASD) and it ends up with a meltdown.
Ideas???