I just need to vent because I am sat here so a angry/upset, I am shaking and crying.
My brother (living with my parents after a breakup) asked me to clean my parents house today as they get back off holiday and he "doesn't have the time". He is out at work 1pm-10.20pm. I told him to get up earlier tomorrow and do it but he says because he's depressed etc. it's hard and he can't.
I would have 100% helped out if he'd asked me to help little and often whilst they were away, but I have my own house and family to look after.
However, he's now come at me saying "I'm out of touch", I said I'm not, I've been through depression etc. we lost a close friends 2 year old daughter, my grandad and I gave birth all within 3 weeks, it sparked off depression, PTSD and OCD, so I have had dark times too and do know what it's like, however I can't drop everything and come straight away...
He then tried to turn it into a competition of who has had it harder, I explained that I never feel I've had it harder than others as everyone has their own battles and demons and you don't know what anyone else is going through, but he tried to continue with it and then turned around and said "she wasn't even your daughter, we all cried about it". I've lost it, full on broken down in tears. I felt enough of a fraud at the time crying because she wasn't mine and had to have therapy to help me through everything, and even having the therapy I felt like a fraud.