Long one but ill keep it short.
Growing up my dad was a absolute dick to me, he used to wind me up, call me fat, pin me down and blow down my nose, call my mama and grandad because I was so close to them. Many other dickhead things to many to right. My mum left him when I was 15 im now 34. When he left I got on better with him, I very really see him only to drop cards of at birthdays and Christmas still to this day when I do have to go around I get an overwhelming sence of anger and anxiety about it. My kids do not get out the car if I have to take them because although I no he wouldn't dare say or do anything to my children like he did to me I just hate the thought of what he did and just dont want my kids around that. Well anyway, he keeps asking me to borrow him money. I have done in the past and he always gives it back. Even though it winds me up because that is the only time he messages me when he wants something, I just feel guilty saying no, I would never want to see someone struggle for money. But all his messages end with dont tell so and so (his wife) that you've borrowed it me. Iv woke up to a text this morning asking to borrow until friday it's becoming more frequent and asking for more each time. Im not making myself short or anything if I was to give it him but I just wanted to see other people's perspective on it and what would you do.