School mum

[lauribec]

Much like everyone else, big day in our house tomorrow. DD1 starting highschool, DS starting year 3 after a really rocky previous school year and DD2 starting preschool! On top of all the emotions I’m feeling for my children I’m also worrying about a mum at school.

Small village school, around 100 children. This mum tried it on with my OH at a wedding at the very start of the summer holidays. Nothing physically happened but didn’t stop her trying all evening. Had my eldest in tears.

Impossible for me to avoid her indefinitely, really worrying about how I deal with school situations? Just blank her? Death stare? Smile sweetly? Throat punch her? 😂

My 2 youngest will be at school with her child for the next 6 years. Only slight relief is that she only has her child every other week.

If this woman " tried it on" with your OH how did he react? How come she was doing it all evening without him telling her in no uncertain terms he wasn't interested?

Just be polite but don’t make it into any major drama. You can probably mostly avoid her outside of school pick up times.

He was very drunk (doesn’t typically drink but REALLY went to town) in honesty he actually seemed quite uncomfortable. Did laugh with her a bit but he was part of a group that included her. Not making any excuses for him it was a shitty situation and I brought it up with him when she started taking photos of him. I don’t think he saw any wrong with it, yet I could have never got away with the same behaviour 🤷‍♀️

I did think this was probably the best course of action. Her and I have mutual family just to add salt to the wound! Haha. Stupidly my heart will race when I see her though.

Just ignore her. Pretend she is invisible. Anything else could bolster her. Your DH should have done more

Why are you feeling anxious? She’s the one completely in the wrong. Hold your head up high & ignore her.

Here we go, it's always the same story it would seem.

She was trying it on with him all evening and he didn't nip it in the bud immediately because 'drunk' 🙄

I was going to say I don't understand why you feel uncomfortable because she was the one doing all the flirting.

But I get it now, she wasn't, they both were.

I'd blank her from now on but I also wouldn't trust your husband as far as I could throw him.

Walking past her, I'd be finding it very difficult to prevent the word 'slut' from quietly creeping out of my mouth in a whisper, to be honest.

Were other school parents at this wedding as well and could any of them have noticed what she was up to?

Invisible is a good idea! I have 2YO parent facing in the pushchair so I’m usually talking to her anyway ☺️

Oh absolutely! Things were incredibly rough between us at this point but absolutely no excuse. He knew before the wedding there was bad feeling between her and I. Pretty sure she was doing it intentionally to try and get one over on me.

Wish I had it in me haha!! I’m very much aware she has a village that wouldn’t think twice about standing up for her whereas I have me 😂 even my mum tried to tell me she hadn’t done anything wrong!

Yes there were 2 other mums however one is one of her best friends and the horrible secrets they keep for each other is pretty grim so very much doubt she’d admit she’d say she saw anything (although I get on with her). The other I’m friends with and she approached me to say she was seeing what she was doing and to not give her a reaction.

Every now and again she would look over directly at me and stare, I just acted like I didn’t notice her.

I expect everyone at the school already knows what she's like then.