Its really too much to put into one box, but over the 10 years I have been with my OH, we have 3 children, I have always struggled on and off with the relationship, I love my MIL and FIL very much, but they have always (or as it seems to myself and hubby) very much put their Daughter first in everything even more so since her children came onto the scene.
My hub and I work hard for a modest life, make things work like most of us do if there is an issue financially or otherwise we work through it without help, where as it seems that they are constantly picking up the slack for his Sister who has never really worked very much if at all, tbh we can live with all of that, but its the extent of interest they seem to have in her children Vs ours, and in particular with his Sister, I can't remember when she last remembered one of our children's Birthdays for example whereas I always make the effort, and even his parents don't ask to see our our kids unless hers are there and then its the be all and end all, yet if we can't make that invite we are treated like we are the worst humans ever.
It feels like their is always a drama around what is happening and all their focus and interest are always in his Sisters camp, my older child is just disinterested now and not bothered about meeting at all which is such a shame but I can see it through those eyes.
There are many other build ups to this, just general lack of interest and what feels like care where I have had deaths/illness in my family and nobody seemed at all bothered to even check in how I/we were at these times, one of us is poorly and again just brushed off, the other side of family have a slight cold and its again all drama and worst possible thing that could happen.
Does anyone else have this dynamic in family? I am sick of feeling so I guess sad and disappointed really, my OH feels the same but he is less emotive than me so he just says he brushes it off and thinks about more important things.
Thanks for listening.
Kel