so how do i put weight on?

[queenrollo]

i've just been to the practice nurse at my gp and she weighed me. I know i'm skinny......but at only 5ft 2 very slender frame i'm 6 and half stone. I don't look ill or emaciated.
I've always been like this, i've always struggled to put weight on, and i appear to have lost about two stone on her records because i was last weighed some time after the birth of ds. Being pregnant was the only thing that changed my body and i started to put on and sustain weight.

i'm feeling pretty bloody pissed off with her about it to be honest. I lost most of that weight in a two month slot last year when my relationship broke down and i would like to put a little bit of weight on but i just don't know how.

Are there any other skinnies out there who want to come and give me some moral support? i usually get a pretty frosty response when i raise this subject, and yes i know in most peoples eyes i'm lucky i don't have a constant battle with my weight.....but i'm sick of snide comments and being judged because i am slim.

i used to get this but my gp and practise nurses all know my family now and realised im normal compared to my family.im same as you 5ft 2 and 6 stone,and i dont think i look ill etc.ive always been like this.after 3rd child i kept about a stone on for year after and quite liked being able to buy clothes!and some of the comments stopped.(but why oh why could it not have gone on my boobs instead of my bum).
i dont understand what support your asking for though?

my friend is v skinny and hates it but imo she just doesnt eat enough. Whenever i see her eat a meal she just picks and leaves most of it.
I think the strategy should be quite simple. If you want to lose weight - eat less. If you want to gain weight - eat more.

You are the same weight and height I was before I had DS and I used to get this a lot. Now I have put on half a stone I am no longer hassled.

If you want to put on weight, eat calorific foods little and often. If you really struggle you could try a build-up drink.

DragonsEye-doesnt always work like that .

oh just to know i'm not the only one.......none of my friends have this problem at all and i feel a bit isolated by it i guess.

It took me a long time to get over the cruelty aimed at me when i was at school about this and i get annoyed at the medical profession quoting off charts instead of looking at me and seeing that i'm healthy the way i am. My mum is slim, her sisters are....my gran was like me even after 13 children but my gp and nurse seem to think i'm like this because i starve myself

I'd like to put a bit more weight on because like you, after my ds i found it easier to buy clothes and now nothing i own fits me properly and i can't buy new clothes because everything is too big.

and yes.....why can't the weight go on the boobs and not the bum

There are very high-energy and easy-to-eat foods you could try eg peanut butter and avocados. But some people just don't put on weight no matter what they eat. I had a hairdresser once who was like that, she desperately wanted to be bigger and constantly had people advising her to eat more/what to eat, but it had no effect.

Maybe you would get more joy from experimenting with clothes and what kinds of shapes make you feel more rounded. But if you don't look ill - and you've had no prob geting pg - then as you say it is normal for you. Think of yourself as beautiful and confident whatever your size. I don't have this problem myself, but I agree very much that a lot of people think it's fine and dandy to be rude and sneery about people who are naturally thin, and it must hurt.

i do have a small appetite in that i can't sit down and eat a huge meal.....and in some part this stems from growing up with a mother who for medical reasons had to eat 6 smaller meals through the day. I can eat breakfast, lunch and dinner and still graze throughout the day, if i look at the amount of food i eat it's actually quite a lot.

i'm normally ok about this but just occasionally something like this happens and all those old feelings and memories come back......

really? WHY doesnt it work like that? Do you think you do eat under the recommended calories per day? Build up drinks sound a good idea.

Peanut butter, avocados and cheese are good for putting on weight. Always add butter and/or cheese to mashed potato. Switch to full fat (or even Gold Top) milk and yoghurt. Hot chocolate before bed.

sorry. x posts. Im interested because you sound just like my friend. She is thinking of taking up some kind of exercise which may in turn increase her appetite

x-posts with SL

right.....off shopping this afternoon so will put peanut butter and avocados on my shopping list.
I've been eating a much healthier diet lately because my new dp doesn't eat meat and he does all the cooking. I think we need to look at ways of getting higher calorie food into my diet, but not his because he's trying to keep weight off!
I've felt much healthier these last few months cutting meat out of my diet, and i'd like to improve that further still......i think i need to sit down and assess how many calories i'm eating a day and see if it's ok or if i need to address it.

Of course the other option is just to get pregnant again but that's an extreme measure just to put weight on

DragonsEye-sory didnt mean to sound funny.i eat lots.i eat 3 meals a day,i dont just graze throughout the day i gnaw!my favorite snacks are savoury especially stinky cheeses and crisps(im actually shoving cheese and veggie ham sandwhich in as we speak ).i used to be fussy,didnt like this,didnt like that etc but now im older i realise i just hadnt tried them properly!someone mention the shakes to me before,maybe try that queenrollo?

Queenrollo you must be tiny, my 11 year old d dis 5' 2" and waighs 7 stone (and she is v.thin)

As for putting on weight I found that being pg at 40 and then eating lots and drinking a fair amount of alcohol in the intervening 10 years has done the trick nicely

I'd be really annoyed as well. You are the way you are. I can see that it would look like a big drop in weight on your notes, but you explained that. If you were carrying an extra stone, I doubt that people would be rushing to give you diet tips.

I really don't have this problem, but could you look at it as a health thing rather than a weight thing? Could you buy some weights and do some resistance training? It's supposed to be great for bone health and would build up your muscle tone.
Mixed seeds are a great source of nutrients and very high in calories. If you have cereal, you could buy/make a granola mix to go on top.

Those kind of foods with light weight training should help you gain muscle if not weight. Then if someone says something stupid about your weight, at least you can hold them in a headlock until they apologise!

cheesesarnie - no, no, didnt take it the worng way at all

Bananas are good too - very healthy food but can be quite fattening if eaten in large amounts! You could have a toasted cheese sarnie with slices of banana under the cheese - it's delicious and must be pretty fattening!

jolly good DragonsEye!

There is an MN skinnies stuff their faces support thread for the slim amongst us.

Here

Which reminds me, haven't posted on it for ages.