Anyone else carrying the full mental load at home?

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Feeling really fed up lately. I’m the one constantly thinking about everything—shopping, school stuff, bills, appointments—while my partner just waits to be told what to do.
I’ve tried explaining but it doesn’t seem to sink in.
Anyone else in the same boat? Any tips

Afraid so.

Yep. I've just accepted this is my lot now.
DH is great but doesn't see things that need to be done.
I'm tired beyond exhausted but accept this is what I signed up for.

Yep. I always wonder what would happen if we just didn't

Yes I did when I was married with DC at home. In hindsight, I did a lot of worrying over stuff that really didn't matter though.

In my current realtionship I've learned to let go, let him do it his way and it will be OK.

Yep. I’m on my own. I curse DD’s deadbeat “father” daily and have done for five years (last time we heard from him). DD 13 is autistic with PDA profile schools haven’t even submitted the ASD referral yet after years of me pushing. It’s me who gets physically attacked daily. She has refused to go into school for weeks. I’m at risk of a fine, followed by a higher fine then prosecution. I’m at my wits end. She’s bigger than me. I’ve been punched in the face several times, been covered in bruises many times. Kicked in the stomach so hard I’ve fallen and hit my head. But no, the LA just want to fine me when I’m doing everything I possibly can to get her to attend.
Have kids they said, it’ll be fun they said…

Yes. He says I worry too much. He might be right.

Mine says the same about me , he worries about nothing , i envy him.
I am too much of a control freak to let him take on the home admin though.

used to but I have stopped doing more than my share now that DC are old enough not to suffer as a result

Always have, doesn’t bother me massively (although I want to leave him for other issues!)

It dont get better either. I've literally thrown a wobbler at DH, we are on 'holiday' and as usual, I have had to plan, book, pack, get us there, set up ( caravan) , sort trips out, get us there, manhandle wheelchair, dog and sort problems as they occur.

I'd go away on my own but even that ends up with me having to sort 'care' before I can do that!
Fucking pissed off doesn't even cover it, 25 fucking years I've been doing this.

Yep- I work full time, but today I have done the food shop, bought a kids bday present for party on Friday, started the holiday list, re-arranged DDs tutor, booked a shoe fitting for sat, bought the last bits we need for the wedding we r going to in two weeks, bought end of Yr teacher presents. My DH has... gone to work. Next week he'll ask if 'we' have done such and such. Boils my piss

Don’t all women?! Not sure how to effect change.

Yep, mine just says well just ask and I’ll do it. I don’t want to have to ask you to do shit that needs doing, just do it. And if you say you’re going to do something then do it.

It’s so frustrating.