Very worried!!

[sausagecake]

Couldn't sleep last night due to the fact that I am so worried about dd and mil babysitting. Yesterday she only wanted to give her a frozen grape to eat... I mean - wtf!!!! Why doesn't she just give her some marbles to play with! she is only 13 months. When she suggested it, my reaction was, "your kidding aren't you", but I don't think she understood my concern. Yikes!!

make sure she's fast asleep before MIL gets to yours, and just say no food if she wakes.

well, did you explain why grapes should be cut in half?

did you leave her overnight?

i wouldnt do it. would you enhoy your night worrying about them?
even now i still cant bring myself to let my own mum have my 14 month ds without me being there. she even left him unsupervised in his buggy in a shop after i told her not to!
is there anyone else you trust?

but then maybe i am just one of those annoying mothers of pfb!

just explain about the grape reasonably and calm down

tell her that there have been instances of older toddlers choking on grapes; they are just the right size to block the windpipe

if she cuts them in half they should be fine - my child's speech therapist recommended this

saying 'you're kidding aren't you' gives her no information and is a useless thing to say if you are trying to get her not to do it again

yes bethoo it sounds as if you are

you're still alive aren't you? your mother didn't lose you as a child?

no food if she wakes

you simply say "DD will have x, y, z if she wakes oh and if you give her grapes, please cut them in half as they are a choking risk"

then you ENJOY your evening

I guess that If I hadn't been so shocked at the suggestion then my response would have been a little different. You are right Cappuccino. It just gets worse though. She wants to give her flumps for breakfast and choc all day. I know she gives them to her when I have asked her not to. A flump was stuck to her trousers last week and I couldn't get her to eat any dinner. Arghh!!

the odd flump for breakfast is not the end of the world

Imo flumps are for older kids anyway. I really want her to get into a habit of eating cereal / porridge for breakfast and sweets are for after food. I just don't understand that to show love you have to give them sweets. Surely a cuddle and kiss will do! I guess being a first time mum is a worring and paranoid time. Just need to chill out eh!

What is a flump??

if your DD eats well most of the time, it really doesn't matter on the odd occasion

a flump is a marshmallow type of thing (ie full of sugar and ick)

That's why I am concerned. I really struggle to get her to eat properly. She used to eat really well but for the last month or so. It's a bit of a minefield so all this doesn't help.

it depends with grandparents I think

we see dh's parents about once every three months; we stay for the weekend and they stuff the dds full of coco-pops and ice cream

it doesn't matter, it's only occasionally and they know they are getting away with murder because they are at their grandparents' home

my mum lives down the road tho and they see her every day - so the rules are different - if she was giving them coco-pops and ice cream all the time I would be quite cross

it depends how often we are talking about

tbh if it is fortnightly I wouldn't stress about it

I have never heard of freezing a grape.

If you're worried enough to lose sleep then don't have MIL babysit.

if you're worried enough to lose sleep I think you need to calm down a bit

imho