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Worried after reporting to social services

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Worriedmama222 · 01/07/2025 19:09

Sorry may be a long one, also not sure what topic this would fall under…

I recently visited a friends house for the first time and upon visiting I couldn’t believe how him and his child were living, the smell of the house was horrendous rubbish, mouldy food on the floor, energy drink cans, cigarette ends everywhere it looked like a bomb had hit. His son (10) was sat watching a YouTube video about guts, gore, abuse etc. My friend then asked his son to moved something off the floor, he refused which led friend to pick his son up by the arm twist it behind his back and lead him into the kitchen where I heard him call out “oww dad my shoulder you’re hurting me please dad let go” he came back in extremely quiet. Whilst I was sat in the sofa friend had laid his head on my lap, moved his hand under my leg and tried to finger me, all while his son was sat on the opposite sofa, I immediately stopped him ran to the bathroom, the kitchen and bathroom were in a worse state than the living room, I made my excuses after that and left.

Friend had also been bragging that he regularly leaves his son at home on a night unsupervised to go out and meet women for sex and often invites strangers into the house when his son is upstairs for sex too. Me and him are obviously no longer friends, I have reported all of this to social services today as I know it’s the right thing to do but now I am panicking about what he may do if he figures out it was me.

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Olivesforteatonighty · 01/07/2025 23:12

You did the right thing for that child. Just keep reminding yourself of that. Social services won’t tell him it was you, so he won’t actually know for certain. Just keep your head down but well done.

Worriedmama222 · 02/07/2025 10:55

@Olivesforteatonighty I know I’ve done the right thing, that kid doesn’t deserve to be treated that way or have to live like that that. I feel guilty for not noticing sooner as I’ve been in their lives quite some time now I just never expected my friend to be like that. Social services assured me that it will be anonymous I just think with the timings he will figure out it’s me.

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Galaxyandcadburys773 · 02/07/2025 14:14

That sounds grim
Poor child
You definitely did the right thing.

shirlem · 02/07/2025 14:23

You've done the right thing. Imagine the guilt if you didn't and something seriously bad happened to that child. Well done for doing this, speak to social services and see what they say in terms of telling him it was you as I'm really not sure of the process there but they might just put your mind at ease. I'm sure it'll be confidential or else it would put people off reporting

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 02/07/2025 15:44

Frankly if he does figure out it's you I wouldn't feel worried or ashamed about reporting him, he is a gross and abusive person and his child is being seriously damaged.

Cheeseplantandcrackers · 02/07/2025 15:46

I would gladly tell him that I reported him but it could be any of the women that he takes home.

What a horrible situation.

Are you ok?

Worriedmama222 · 02/07/2025 16:35

@YesThatsATurdOnTheRugMy worry is him becoming abusive, if he can do that towards his own son what would he do to me?

@Cheeseplantandcrackershonestly no, I’m heartbroken for his son. I also feel violated myself because of what he tried to do.

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