It's official. No more children for us. DH just had the snip.

[JoshandJamie]

feels weird knowing that we definitely won't have more children (I know it's possible to reverse it but that's not going to happen). Quite sad in a way. I don't want any more children, but it's the death of the potential for more that's a little sad.

Anyway, back to work and await poor DH and his painful bits.

Friend of mine had another baby after her dh had the snip. Although he passed the 3 month check, the tubes spontaneously knit back together after that and she conceived.

Don't speak too soon - my DH had this done in December 2006 and it didn't work!!

(And he's still waiting to get it done again, sigh)

I do sympathise - I know we shouldn't have more children but it's the finality of it when it's done.

How is he? Did you start a thread a while ago about him going for it cos I think I posted on it?

My DH had the snip. Got it done privately at 6pm one Thursday evening some years ago and insisted on going into work the next day (because, you know, his work place couldn't survive without him there for a day). He walked like he'd just got off a horse after having been on it for a couple of years ... and it took a couple of weeks before everything was back to normal, although I think it was more a matter of merely being uncomfortable rather than searing pain of any sort.

Tubes knitting back together - ye gods - scary!

ohmygod dont tell me spontaneous knitting back together stories. Really, la la la not listening. DH was very much on side for having it done but found himself the day before running all sorts of possibilities through his head like'what if the world is ending and they are only letting fertile men on to the escape rocket'. Said he felt odd damaging a body part on purpose. Oh and then his was one of the very painful ones and we had plum recovery updates on daily basis. It took about 3 weeks for things to be back to normal. It is lovely not to have to worry about contraception - although now clearly I will have knitting anxiety attacks..

Hi just wanted to say The way you feel is completely normal.
My dp had the snip (completely joint decision) 2yrs ago and I felt really mixed up about it for about 6 months maybe more afterwards.
It was'nt that I wished he had'nt done it or even that I wanted more children (we have four sons) it was the finality of it all. I was unprepared for , I supose the maternal, natural instinct that is being a woman.
Its is in part an end to a particular time in your life,one of child bearing. I did'nt feel old enough to have reached
that time in my life, now i'm writing this, yes thats that, its about the finish of something!
The good news is ive passed that time and am filled with a relief that now I can just enjoy sex with my dp without the shadow of unplaned pregnancy and enjoy the children I have!
I understand. x

he's fine. A little tender. Walking like John Wayne. I'm fine too - not thinking about the deeper things.

Please don't scare me about knitting back stories - I fell pregnant while on the pill so anything can happen!

can't wait till DH has his after this one (no. 3) is born.

we both feel well and truly done and are looking forward to not having to worry about birth control or birth control side effects.