Mid Life Crisis

[vixM8]

Where to start!!

I’m hoping I am not alone in the way I feel, as sometime I feel like I am isolated.

I’m 41, and have been with my partner for 15 years. I feel as though I am at the stage of my life where I feel like I should have done more, all my siblings are married and have families of their own. Whilst I have no burning desire to have children, especially the state the world is in at the moment I do wish I had a family of my own as I feel so empty and I don’t know why. I live in a flat, so don’t even own my own house, I don’t go on holiday and can’t drive…I feel like a failure as I see everyone else living a “normal” life and are 100 miles ahead of me and I’m just stuck.

Has anyone else ever felt like this? I really don’t know what to do.

It’s your life - no one else’s. Rather than spending energy looking across, focus on you.
Are you happy?
What would fulfilment look like? Is it family or something else? What could family look like for you - is it friendship perhaps?
Where would you like to be this time next year?
in 3 years?
When you’re 50?
If you’re happy and fulfilled in some areas of life - crack on, don’t worry about anyone else. If you’d like more in life - what might that look like?
Hitting 40 is definitely a moment of reflection for many people - me included - but doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with where you are. 💕

It’s not too late to do any of the things you mention - get married, have a baby (assuming you’re healthy), learn to drive, change career to earn more money etc.

Stop comparing yourself to other people and take action on the things you want to change.