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taylorrosej · 09/03/2025 09:14

Hoping someone has some advice as I'm not really sure where to start with this one.
My mum when she was around 12 or 13 she found a birth certificate in her home that she shared with her mum Dad and sister and it had her name as the birth mother when she asked her mum she gave her wrong for being nosey. She can't remember anything else from the birth certificate as it was a long time ago she is now 72. She never asked her sister and she passed 20 years ago so nobody around to ask now so all I have to go on is a time frame and the birth mother name. Any ideas how I can look into this?

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TeenToTwenties · 09/03/2025 09:22

I'm a bit unclear as to 'her name as the birth mother' bit. Whose name, mother of who?

Is it the sister being your mum's birth mum not their shared mother?

She could apply for a copy of the birth certificate?

Their us a Genealogy or Family History board (can't remember exact name) on mn that might be able to advise further.

July24MJ · 09/03/2025 09:24

So, simply yes you can look into it ..... but the less detail you have, the more difficult it's going to be.

Is it YOUR mum, or HER mum (your grandmother) who is the birth mother named on the birth certificate?
You can order replacement birth certificates - but it doesn't sound like you'd have enough information (yet).

Maybe one of family history tracing sites might be a start - in the hope that the child of the birth certificate (who presumably was adopted / brought up outside your family) has registered to find their birth family?

Or do you know whereabouts all this happened - to maybe start with local church baptism records, if that might have been applicable?

Vestigially · 09/03/2025 09:29

Are you saying that your mum thinks that the woman she grew up thinking of as her sister was actually her mother?

P00hsticks · 09/03/2025 09:30

Unfortunately the official General Register Indexes appear to have a big gap between 1934 and 1984, which is the period you'd need to search (I'm assuming that they were in England or Wales ?) You could try an alternative site like freebmd.org.uk. I think you'd have to assume that the baby was registered under the mothers surname.

I may be mis-reading or misinterpreting your post but are you saying that the certificate suggested that your mother had given birth to a child at the age of 12-13 but it didn't actually happen (at least not to her) ?

Could she have found something like a baptism certificate that she mis-read / mis-interpreted ?

TeenToTwenties · 09/03/2025 09:39

It wasn't unknown for young unmarried daughters who got pregnant to have their babies on the quiet and then the child being declared as a late age baby of the actual grandmother.

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taylorrosej · 09/03/2025 22:11

taylorrosej · 09/03/2025 09:14

Hoping someone has some advice as I'm not really sure where to start with this one.
My mum when she was around 12 or 13 she found a birth certificate in her home that she shared with her mum Dad and sister and it had her name as the birth mother when she asked her mum she gave her wrong for being nosey. She can't remember anything else from the birth certificate as it was a long time ago she is now 72. She never asked her sister and she passed 20 years ago so nobody around to ask now so all I have to go on is a time frame and the birth mother name. Any ideas how I can look into this?

Sorry for the confusion so my mum was down as the birth mum on the certificate but she believes the actual mum is her older sister just used her name. Her sister is 8 years older than her and was working as a live in nanny in the Newcastle area. My mums mum my granny dismissed my mum about it on asking about the certificate. My mum doesn't know what happened to the certificate and it was never brought up again. Not really much information to go on.

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Christwosheds · 09/03/2025 22:18

So she doesn’t remember any name of a baby ? You could search by birth mother name and surname of baby , as you have a small time window. I’m on ancestry and find my past and I would search for you but private messages are disabled at the moment.

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taylorrosej · 09/03/2025 23:51

Christwosheds · 09/03/2025 22:18

So she doesn’t remember any name of a baby ? You could search by birth mother name and surname of baby , as you have a small time window. I’m on ancestry and find my past and I would search for you but private messages are disabled at the moment.

No she doesn't remember anything apart from her name down as the mother. It really isn't much to go on. Could be a try searching for the baby under my mums then surname. Thank you that's kind of you to offer.

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taylorrosej · 14/03/2025 11:47

taylorrosej · 09/03/2025 09:14

Hoping someone has some advice as I'm not really sure where to start with this one.
My mum when she was around 12 or 13 she found a birth certificate in her home that she shared with her mum Dad and sister and it had her name as the birth mother when she asked her mum she gave her wrong for being nosey. She can't remember anything else from the birth certificate as it was a long time ago she is now 72. She never asked her sister and she passed 20 years ago so nobody around to ask now so all I have to go on is a time frame and the birth mother name. Any ideas how I can look into this?

Has anyone done as ancestry DNA test to find family before?

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