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[11Turtle]

I'll try to keep this short. So off and on for 10 years I've allowed myself to be abused mentally/verbally. I brushed it off and ignored it thinking it would change and get better and maybe space would help it or if I didn't say or do certain things. Fast forward, we been living separate for 2 years. Just moved into a place together with our two young boys and literally only been here for 21 days and it's here again! We are both on the lease and I feel like I'm trapped! I need to start living and loving myself and my kids and no longer being fixated on the what ifs and giving so many chances! Any advice on what I can do from here?

Don’t beat yourself up about what has happened in the past as it is not easy to leave.
Start making plans now though as you’ve realised that it is never going to change.
Do you have friends or family who can support you IRL? Is it feasible financially for you to move out now with your kids?

@Middlepiepush I do have some support and financially I could possibly ask for help too. Like even right now we just barely moved and it will be the second month of rent and he doesn't even have half of the rent and it's due today. We need food and other necessities also pay for the boys daycare. He cannot help with barely anything all the time. It's very draining. It seems me and the boys are worse off with him.