Hate that I am starting to look like my mum

[idontknow86]

I am 39, so I guess as I am approaching 40 I am on a bit of a downer. I have always looked like my mum; but I just see myself looking more and more like her. I stupidly did one of those aging filters on TikTok and it was my mum staring back at me. This genuinely scares me because I don’t want to be anything like my mum. We have a very strained relationship; thankfully I rarely see her as we live in different parts of the country. But she has traits that are not nice; she has no self awareness, she is always falling out with friends and she blames them for the fallout and doesn’t see the pattern. She won’t take any form of criticism, always makes everything about her, her house is a really dirty hoarder house that I always avoid going into; she won’t take any help with it. I am aware she has mental health issues; but that’s a whole other thing. I also take a mild anti depressant. Anyway I digress; I don’t want to end up looking like her 😩 but aside from surgery there isn’t a lot I can do 😢

Maybe get your teeth done and a new hairstyle.
Keep smiling too.

I now see my grandma staring back from the mirror 😬

I feel your pain OP! I was older than you when I started to see my mother's face every time I looked in the mirror 😖

I recently came across an old photo (I thought of me) and thought I don't remember wearing that dress 🤔 It was my mum.
Also catch sight of myself in the mirror sometimes and think wow! I miss her so it's comforting to carry her on with me 💕

Your whole vibe will be different though. Hers is dark, yours can be light.

Practically, you can wear your hair different, dress different and hold yourself different. Be really healthy so your face looks healthy.

You need to own your version of this face that’s been passed down through the genes.

I’m looking more like my dad 😆

Bloody tell me about it. I have to remind myself that I AM NOT MY MOTHER!!!!!

I might look like her but that’s as far as it goes.

@Slimbear I have been thinking about getting my teeth whitened 👍🏻

I can sew why it is hard to look like someone who's personality is so far from what you want to be. However looks and personality are very separate things. Remind yourself that to other people they will see your lovely traits shine through

I am turning into my dad. Hairs on my chin and thinning hair. , going "oof" when I stand up and "ahh" when I sit down. Telling DS to turn the lights off because its not Blackpool Illuminations..

I feel exactly the same. My mum was quite abusive to me growing up and I feel quite traumatised by the fact I look very much like her now. Doesn’t help that we were / are both extremely short sighted and I can’t wear contacts due to medical issues so I have the same small eyes high prescription type glasses as her, which makes it even worse. No real advice just that I understand.