Being outed on Mumsnet - in ohter words someone delcaring they know you in RL

[lisalisa]

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I have just seen this thread and can't read lisalisa's comments though having read between the lines can guess very well what she wrote.

The namechange was NOT!!! malicious and was as some guessed a protection of my own identity

I don't know lisalisa at all well but have friends of friends....

Lisalisa If you're reading this please be reassured that I have NEVER passed on ANYTHING seen on MN. It would be lashon hara (Jewish sin of spreading gossip) of the worst kind and EVERYTHING you have written remains private! I also am restricted in that I can't mention MN for fear of being discovered myself.

And on behalf of everyone else please come back

Once again sincerest apologies for any distress.

I will email you when I can get a secure line. It might be only next week.

so it's ok for you to know who lisalisa is but not for her to know who you are??

bizarre.

Absolutely agree MoH.

at the bottom of her post mumtoclaire says she will e-mail lisalisa to sort things out, MoH, so hopefully everything will get sorted off-board

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mumtoclaire - what do you mean by email me by way of a secured line? And why do you feel the need to protect your identity at the cost of mine? I cannot read your posts on MN as you have chnaged your name and therefore have no posting histroy. Presumably after this incident is over you will change your name back again. You therefore have nothing to fear by revelaing to me who you are as I cannot discover any information about you due to your name change.

If,as you say, you do not know me well but only thorught friends of friends how are you so sure you know me at all? there are thousands if not millions of lisas out there and you cannot even be sure that this is my name at all? This is what worries me - in order to establish whether you do know me you have probably trawled my past posts to build up info - in doing that you would have accessed information meant for MN readers who operate on teh bassi of anonymity rather than someone looking for info to out another poster.

At the very very least you can do the decent thing and give a very large hint here as to who yoou are in RL and where I may find yhou......

You will not be able to contact me off board by email ( unless you know my address through other menas) as I htink MN towers has an old email addy so you'll need to explain on board........

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I emailed lisalisa my identity and grovelling apology and just got a reply "sorry but I don't know what you're talking about".

Not a lot more I can say!!!

I shall hang my head in shame for a long time

Lisalisa - I'm really sorry

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I think we should have an addition to the Mumsnet Rules which means you mustn't reveal someone's real-life identity without permission

it is v bad

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Yes I got the wrong person

BTW I never outed Lisalisa I only said I knew her which whilst I accept is bad cannot be the same as revealing someone's identity,

mumtoclaire - what do yuo mean you emailed me and the person said it was the wrong one? did you use a different email address from mine? Perhaps you do know me but used an old or different email addy? I have had all my posts on MN deleted due to this you know. That's 5 yrs worth as i posted some pretty sensitive stuff that I thought was "safe" in terms of being "oughted". I took a lot of care in that regard as I viewed MN as a very valuable outlet and place of suport which i didn't want to lose - thus I never went to meet ups and didn't post a profgile and was very careful not to mention my kids schools or places of work etc.

You really do need to give me a big hint as to who you are - I can then assess whether you do know me and I need to change my name for future postings . You can do this by stating roughly how old you are - 20s , 30s or 40s etc and how you know me - i,e, through kids schools, work, etc. None of this will identify you at all but will help me narrow it down.

I DON'T KNOW WHO YOU ARE

I emailed the person I thought it was and she responded "sorry but I don't know what you're talking about" (as you have the wrong person).

Apologies again

LisaLisa, did you really have 5 years worth of posts deleted? Oh poor you, I know the feeling of wanting to but have never done it but it's a horrible feeling. Anyway, I hope you're ok and I also hope you come back soon.

all the secure line stuff reminds me of foxy