Should I let my 16 year old have a sleepover with a girl?

[MumxXx1]

My 16 year old DH would like you have a sleepover with a girl l in his room. I said he’s not allowed am I being unreasonable?

I suppose you mean DS?

What?

Is it lots of people staying including the girl? Or just the two of them. Definitely no to the matter, larger mixed sec group of friends all crashing in the same room (ideally downstairs) I'd be more flexible on

I'm assuming you mean your son and not your husband.

But either way it would be a no from me.

Just realised that half term has started for some.

I means ds sorry

Where will you be sleeping if your DH is with a girl?

It’s just the girl staying. They said they’re only friends and have known each other for years

I means DS

I would on the condition her mum knows based on the fact they have been friends for years

I haven’t met her but he has been talking about her for a long time

Then no. This doesn’t need to be a question. Son on sofa girl in his room if her parents are ok with it and so is she

I'd personally allow it..
He's saying they are just friends and they are both over the age of 16 and have known each other a long time..
I think I'd want to meet the girl first though to check that I thought she was happy and comfortable with the situation.
I say I'd allow it because I think it's sad that sometimes older teenagers do not have the space and time to explore friendships/relationships gradually. Because they aren't allowed space and time together alone. This often forces unsafe situations or pressured situations. It's nice they are just friends who want to spend time alone. I'm not nieve, I know this may lead to a sexual relationship, but by the same token I had lots of male friends at that age who I had close relationships with that really were just friendships... who I had sleeping on the floor of my bedroom occasionally. I'm grateful I was allowed that actually. I honestly think it helped me navigate relationships better. I was 17 when I lost my virginity to a boy I had been seeing for a year.. who I had spent countless nights talking to for hours and hours alone together. Who I trusted and who I had a safe positive experience with.
This seems amazing compared to the first sexual experiences of many people I know.. who were forced to have quick fumbles in park bushes with boys they barely knew.
As long as you have no concerns regarding the nature of the teens.. as in you trust your son is a decent and responsible person.. and the girl seems like a happy reasonably mature person.. I'd give them space together in this way.
Presuming you've had all the talk about safe sex etc.. not saying they will have sex if they are just friends but obviously you need to factor in the possibility that could happen and make sure thats been covered and that contraception is available etc
But yes at 16 if they've known each other a while and you've met her and she seems happy with it.. then yes I'd let them do this

I can’t believe you are this naive OP.

@MumxXx1 So, what he is really asking is can he have sex with his new girlfriend under your roof?

You'd need to decide if you are okay with this. And make sure someone talks to him about consent and safe sex.