Thinking about an old male friend

[babsX]

I need some advice and to get things off my mind and chest.

Around 18/19 years ago I was best friend's with a guy, we used to hang out all the time, go out for drinks together, he used to walk me home from work, set each other up on dates etc. We lost touch as a girl he was seeing at the time didn't like the fact he was friends with another girl.

The last few months I have not been able to stop thinking about him and it's driving me insane! I no longer have his number and can't for the life of me remember his surname and I feel like I need to make contact with him again to get him off my mind. I'm well aware he may not remember me or is married with children but I just have this feeling I need to be in contact with him and I can't really explain it?

All of my friends say he was the one that got away but at the time we just saw each other as friends.

Maybe because I am having issues in my current relationship my mind is just thinking back to simpler times and how this friend used to treat me so well and I want that again. My partner is very loving, but at the moment it feels like we are drifting apart and more like friends.

Any advice is welcomed 🙏🏻

Yeah similar thing here. No advice I'm afraid but think this is more common than you think. I see posts like this on here quite often. I think the humdrum of life can make us look back to more carefree times. I am choosing to believe my nostalgia will pass 🙂🙈

If you didn't progress to a relationship with him last time what makes you think you will this time?

I've been like this for months, always wondering what could have been. It's sad more than anything as we were really close and had a connection but as we were so young and inexperienced as neither of us had any experiences of a relationship nothing happened

I don't think we would end up together necessarily would just be good to connect again. We were so young last time and neither of us has any experience of being in a relationship which is why we stayed friends

Didn’t you post this before? I think I asked why, if you were such good friends and your friends also knew him, no one remembers his surname?

Wasn't me no, maybe it's a common post / problem.

OK, then surely some of your mutual friends will remember his surname? The other person who posted about exactly the same situation claimed literally none of their mutual friends could remember his surname either, or knew where he’d lived, which I thought was odd, given that that OP claimed, like you, to have been best friends with this guy.

I mean, in your shoes I’d be asking myself what was missing in my life that I was suddenly obsessing over a teenage friendship from 20 years ago that didn’t survive him getting a girlfriend?