Ex boyfriends mum

[RosieLM]

After some advice please & I am probably overthinking this.

I've just bumped into my ex's mum, we've always got on brilliantly and always speak to each other if we see one another.

As I was leaving she said it was lovely to see me and I know where she is if I ever needed anything, I said thank you and likewise and suggested she friend requests me on Facebook.....it was only after I thought this may A) make her feel in an awkward position and B) did she really mean what she said?

As I say we have always got on and chat loads when we do see each other.

Shall I just leave it or send her a private message and said it was lovely seeing her and I realised after it may be awkward for her to friend request me and I didn't want to make her feel that way but if she ever needs me to message or will my ex think it's weird if I messaged his mum!

We split 15 years ago (was together 5 years) and haven't spoken since, he cheated on me so it wasn't amicable.

Any advice as to what I should do?

Do absolutely nothing.

This was one of those situations where you bump into an acquaintance and one of you says “we must go for a coffee and a catch up some time” when you have absolutely no intention of doing so.

If she wanted to stay in touch she’d have made some effort to be in touch over the last 15 years. As would you.

You don't need to do anything. It's up to her whether she decides to send you a friend request. If she does you can accept it if you want but you don't have to feel obliged to

Do nothing. She’ll decide if she wants to or would rather not. No need to overthink it.

If she doesn't want to send you a friend request, or even just doesn't really do Facebook, she won't. It's not at all awkward or strange that you mentioned it; she won't have felt weird about it at all. Honestly, you're really over-thinking this. It's totally fine.

I’d Just leave it as the ball is in her court now. My Grandmother gets a visit from my Uncles ex-girlfriend every week and they split up about 30+ years ago! They have a very close friendship and it’s lovely. It doesn’t have to be awkward but as I say, probably best to leave it up to her. You both sound like lovely people 😊