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oh dear...filled in the PND quiz honestly....

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MerlinsBeard · 06/05/2008 16:00

and HV is coming 2mo to talk thru my answers
and suggested i see my GP. oh dear...what happens now? i don't like my HV, i don't want her to come round and see what a slattern i really am!!

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Lulumama · 06/05/2008 16:02

i would imagine you might need a bit of help? go direct to GP if you want, if you don;t like HV

i am sure she won;t care how messy your house is! you have 3 little ones, mess is to be expected

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MerlinsBeard · 06/05/2008 16:08

she wants me to both

why did i not just underline the right answers!!!

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Lulumama · 06/05/2008 16:09

it is up to you, who you see and don;t see

no point lying or doing the right answers, you need the help of you have PND

i have been there

Nemoandthefishes · 06/05/2008 16:09

MOM dont worry about it if you dont want to see her then dont..however do get help

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MerlinsBeard · 06/05/2008 16:13

will it mean more frequent visits from her? and the DCs will be kept an eye on officially? will it forever be on record that i am not a coper??

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Lulumama · 06/05/2008 16:14

social services will not be waiting to swoop

your GP can offer medication and counselling and you should be offered regular checks with him/her

if you don;t like GP, see a different one

1 in 4 people hve some sort of mental illness in their lifetime, it is nothing to be ashamed of, it is like any other illness and needs treating

Nemoandthefishes · 06/05/2008 16:16

MOM I actually had asocial worker assess me and was convinced ds would be taken hes still her [mores the pity some times]they were there to help me and ensure it never got to a point of them having to consider taking my kids

BellaBear · 06/05/2008 16:18

I answered it honestly and got the highest score they had seen for years! Am now on ADs and going to see a counsellor, but avoided extra visits from my "just let him cry it out at 3 weeks old" HV. ADs have really helped

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MerlinsBeard · 06/05/2008 16:19

its the self harm question taht they are particularly concerned about. It askedif i had thought about harming myself in teh last 7 days...i answered yes. I thought about it...it was fleeting, and i didn't act on it

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expatinscotland · 06/05/2008 16:20

for some reason, i find it a bit ridiculous to expect a person who is incredibly depressed to phone up their GP for an appointment about it.

Lulumama · 06/05/2008 16:22

true expat.

MoM, it is better to catch you at the time things are fleeting thoughts, IFYSWIM

LouiseAnn · 06/05/2008 16:23

When ds1 was about 9 months old I did one of those questionnaires and got a score of 11. The HV said, "If you had scored 12 or more we would have given you some help." Six months later I was really depressed and went to the GP. I just needed some counselling and to re-assess my use of my time.
Take help that is offered. It's for your good and for your children. As someone else said, go straight to the GP if you don't like the HV. My GP was great. She was obviously used to stressed out working mothers being depressed and made me feel normal.
It isn't anything to be scared of, it is common and treatable.
All the best, LouiseAnn

winebeforepearls · 06/05/2008 16:24

I never had an HV involved with mine, just went through (a lovely) GP. If you've got the strength, can you make a GP appointment, then call and cancel HV?

There was never any suggestion of SS getting involved at any stage, so please don't worry about that.

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 06/05/2008 16:24

Call your HV team and ask to see a different one.
I think a lot of people moaning about their hv is due to the fact that they do not get on and don't ask to switch. They mainly work as a team so see if someone else can come.

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MerlinsBeard · 06/05/2008 16:26

lulu, i used to self harm a few years ago. I get those thoughts from time to time especially if i am stressed and very tired, which i told the HV when she rang.

arse, now i feel like an idiot, should have bore (??) that in mind filling in the form...crap

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BellaBear · 06/05/2008 16:26

I scored 22. But I'm glad I did as I have been helped enormously by a wonderful GP. (but 0 on the self harm question)

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 06/05/2008 16:26

God I realised that might sound like I thought you were moaning etc etc, that's not at all it.

I have no way with words today.

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MerlinsBeard · 06/05/2008 16:27

TDWP, there are 2 at our practise at the mo. My 12 year old or a 900 year old

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 06/05/2008 16:28

MoM the edinbugh test doesn't mean that much.
any of my friends have lied on it etc.
What you need is good support and if you don't get along with or trust your health visitor you are entitled to ask for another.

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MerlinsBeard · 06/05/2008 16:31

i think i will speak to her 2mo and give her a proper chance. i have only met her once at ds3s home visit thingy. her advice that she gives sounds very 'from a book' which i don't really like, i can often get better advice from MN than a book

I had better make a start on the house work...

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