I am curious about a situation. So I met a guy online around one month ago, we had two dates before Christmas, it seemingly went well, he was messaging me every day, asked for the second date etc. After the second date, he was still reaching out but a bit less so. I did notice however that he had updated one of his Tinder pictures. I decided that he probably wasn’t all that interested and decided to cut my losses, especially as we barely talked during Christmas and he made a few weird comments. However, after NYE he wished me a happy new year, and told me about his holidays. I was a bit lukewarm and didn’t respond to one message after which he messaged again and asked if I feel like meeting up. I said why not and said we can make plans, but didn’t follow up (I genuinely forgot) after which he reached out again and we finally confirmed plans, I suggested a themed bar and he was enthusiastic and suggested a dinner place beforehand.
Here is the weird part - the day after we set up plans, I went on Tinder for a bit (as mentioned, I hadn’t spoken to this guy for a while, and want to keep my options open) and noticed our messages had disappeared, so he’s likely unmatched me. And he hadn’t the day before when he messaged me to set up plans because I was on Tinder then too.
And I’m curious about this behaviour. The likely story is that he doesn’t want me seeing his activity right? But equally, we’ve been matched for a month and he has changed photos so clearly this hasn’t bothered him before. Possibly he’s met someone else but again, why reach out to me (several times?)
I’m all prepared for to be flaked on or ghosted haha, but I’m curious about other people’s experiences, do you normally unmatch people on dating apps? We’ve set up the meeting in the next few days so I guess we’ll see either way.