So wat exactly happens when you file for divorce on the grounds of adultery?

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have an appointment with solicitor on Wednesday.

This is grounds for a quick divorce if accepted by your dp

Much easier to prove than unreasonable behaviour which is the other route to a divorce which doesn't neccessitate a 2 year separation

Oh good, do you know if the slapper other woman needs to be involved?

You don't need to have her named if dh agrees adultery as the grounds for divorce

sympathy on this btw

Thanks

My best friend is going through this at the moment
Her dp is with a friend of hers which is double bad

Do you have evidence of adultery - times & places etc?

I think it only happenned the once before I found out and kicked him out, but I know the date and place, and he is still with her.

If he is with her now and still officially married to you then he is currently committing adultery, so if you have evidence that they are living together or spending the night together that might be helpful. Is he likely to admit adultery do you think?

Adultery is good as a reason to choose, as if he admits it you can move quickly to the divorce (and quickly means less solicitor costs for both of you).

I dont know if he will admit it, I know he spends most nights with her as she lives across the road and his car is parked in her drive most mornings.

I dont know if he will admit it, I know he spends most nights with her as she lives across the road and his car is parked in her drive most mornings.

If he wants to end the marriage too then I think the only thing standing in your way is possibly his pride. Indeed it is much simpler and less expensive than the unreasonable behaviour route. You can have the OW as an unnamed 3rd party. I divorced based on my adultery (technically,as it took place after dh left me) and it was very fast and very simple.

My current dp is now divorcing on Unreasonable Behaviour and it is a nightmare.

Thanks hopefully he will admit it then, I will get legal aid, so does that mean the cost comes down to him do you know? because he is very skint, I hope not as I dont want any delays

How awful to have that happening right across the road from you, men can be such selfish arses. My friend's DH left her for a 'lady' in her office - who he sent flowers to at work .

I don't have any divorce advice, but sending much supportive hugs ((((((())))))))

The cost to you is independent from the cost to him. He can, of course, apply for Legal Aid himself and if he is eligible then this will make the whole thing financially easier for you both.

Your other option is waiting a couple of years.

Can you forsee any reason why he may not want to divorce? If you are both of the same mind about this then this will make things much simpler for you. The other implication in terms of cost, is how many assets you have to divide and whether there are any complexities here such as who paid what on a deposit for a home or other joint venture such as a business.

I think he probably wants a divorce too, but you never can tell with him, he is very good at putting on a front and pretending not to care about anything, he is only with her for the sex, as she opens her legs on demand (something that was lacking in our relationship) in fact she is commonly known as the local bike (grin) he has also said in the first few weeks he would end things with her if I took him back, charming eh? and now he cant seem to look me in the eye since I made it clear there is no going back, so I have no idea what he thinks, as for assets, we have nothing of value, and he has taken everything he wants from the house

If he agrees to teh divorce it should be quick and simple - he would sign an affidavit admitting adultery. If not you may need to get a Private investigator report - not as scary as it sounds. Failing that you can use the "adultery" info as unresonable behaviour and get your divorse that way.
Hope it goes smoothly for you.

raspberrysheep, how awful, so thyoughtless, bloody men

I admire your strength - I'm the type that would have had him back like a sucker! I think that some dust settling time might be good as he may resist the divorce if he still has thoughts of 'coming home'. Once he has fully accepted the end of your relationship and moved on in a more realistic way he may be easier to deal with in the legal sense. I understand you wnat to draw a line under things though.

Thanks for all the advice will update any progress.

I divorced my dh on these grounds.

He didn't like it, but he just had to agree to the ticked box!!

He didn't commit adultery before he left, but met her a few weeks later, but I was allowed to use that word as we were married and he was shagging spmeone.