Issues with parents, what do I do?

[mummato1xo]

So to cut a long story short, my parents I believe drink a lot at night and at the weekend, I'm struggling to have a relationship with them, not just for this reason but they're quite what I believe to be as narcissistic but I'm not sure if that's the wrong word?

So a recent thing that's happened. My mum text my half brother (clearly drunk) and in the bottom of the messages it said "you don't believe I have bowel cancer"

She has only told me that she has been for a colonoscopy and has a mass that needs removing and has polyps but those are benign. When I confronted her on this her response was "the nurses said I have a mass and it's likely to be cancerous" this isn't the first time she's made out she has cancer. She made out she had cancer when she got a letter for the colonoscopy.

I just feel like it's not something you should say you have unless you have had it confirmed.. what are your thoughts? I don't really have anyone to talk to about this , hence coming here 😞

It sounds like she’s very worried that it might be cancer. Did you go to the appointment? If you didn’t, you don’t know what was said, or what she has taken from what was said.

You seem to be describing someone who is emotionally manipulative if this isn’t the first time she has claimed to have cancer using half truths.

Texting while drunk and otherwise drinking to excess.

I suspect that these recent incidents are probably the latest in many years of similar shit shows that you have endured.

What are the chances of you removing yourself and going either very low contact or no contact at all?

It could absolutely be true and she's shitting herself right now, or she's made it up. It wouldn't be the nurses to say she might have cancer though, they'll say there's a mass warranting further investigation etc and refer her on to a consultant. The only way you'll find out is by asking her, and that's only if you want to.

If she’s asked the staff if it could be cancer, and that’s not an unreasonable question, they can’t say no and maybe that’s why she’s thinking it could be.

No, I didn't go to the appointment with her but back in January she told me she had to have a colonoscopy because she had cancer and all that had happened was she'd had a letter saying she needed to have a routine colonoscopy (I found the letter) so unsure what to believe.
She's telling us she has cancer and when I've asked her about it she told me the polyps came back benign and she needs to have a mass checked out so she's saying different things to different people.

Last night I just asked for the truth and she said "I don't care I hope it is"

And then proceeded to tell me how she hates my dad and her life and how I'm a rubbish daughter who doesn't care apparently , which i do, I'm just finding it hard when she's constantly drunk in the evening