This might be a long one, bit of a back story..
Me and my ex broke up when our son was 6months old due to him not helping, taking drugs and his family being incredibly controlling.
After we split i really tried to set up contact he wasn't interested in sorting contact out and just wanted me back. I told him to take some time and figure ourselves out and if we are meant to be we will find our way, but for now we need to focus on our son.
I was still breastfeeding so he wouldn't have over nights however I would pump for days out. One particular day he didn't strap the car seat in, his nappy wasn't put on correct and he hadn't given him milk, I had to go and pick my son up from the pub.
This led to me asking my ex to prove he wasn't smoking weed while he had our son. This took him 2 weeks to prove and the day he proved i let him take our son and he didn't return him.
I had to go though the courts to get him back. As it was an emergency hearing we got shared care while investigations are taking place.
My concerns were his drug taking, and he is saying my mental health and I'm abusive.
I have a teenage daughter from a different relationship that hadn't seen her dad for 2 years her choice and a whole different story.
My exs family had contacted my daughters dad to tell him I was abusing her (it's lies) and he turned back up out of nowhere. My daughter decided she wanted to rebuild a relationship with him so I supported this. She started seeing him every Sunday.
Social services came out to speak with us and she told them we do argue at times (anyone with a teenage girl will know) but I havnt hit her.
My daughter started to become very cold and misbehaving towards me over the weeks.
I took my daughters phone off her as a punishment and then she's gone into school and said she lied to social services and I do hit her and she wants to go live with her dad.
Social services have told me there is no further action but it will go onto my police record.
I cant help but get a feeling her dad is working with my ex to turn her against me, and make me look like this monster to back up their claims.She won't even talk to me or see me.
My ex is trying to go for sole custody and I just feel like my whole world is falling apart.
The social worker also seems to very side with both my ex's who both have history of DV against me.
I still did hear from Cafcass to do their safeguarding report so I contacted them asking when they was doing it. I got a reply saying that they won't be doing it and it will be our social worker.
The social worker went out to see my ex and it was his mum doing all the talking on his behalf, she's come to see me but only my daughter was discussed and she's had contact with my Daughters dad (who has nothing to do with my son or our case)
This report is going to be nothing to do with my son in a court case that is about him.
My ex also failed the hair strand test 1. Hair not long enough 2. He was still using. However I feel like my daughter changing her story is going to completely over shadow the case.
My son has had endless stomach issues since being split between two homes and his development has been delayed. Everytime I take him doctors my ex and his family call up for a copy of the notes and accuse me of constantly lying. The doctors are taking me seriously but there is only so much they can do.
Has anyone got anyone been though anything similar or have any advice? I just feel like everyone is against me when all iv ever wanted is what's best for my children.