Boyfriend goes on holiday without us.

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So my partner of 10+ years has recently been away abroad on holiday with his friends and is planning to go every few months now to different places with his friends, he has me and our 3 children at home, am I wrong to be feeling annoyed of him wanting to do this? I think it’s more the fact I would never get the opportunity to do this for myself unless the kids are at an age to look after themselves. It just angers me and upsets me at the same time, but he says if I have a problem he can just leave me, that he wants to just live his life now but then so would I love to “live” my life but my priorities are the kids and I would love to go with them all the time never mind on my own or with friends.

You spelled 'ex-partner' wrong.

unless you get the same time away and money to spend as you wish this is not acceptable in a family relationship , he's taking money away from you and the children to have fun with his mates.
He's obviously decided he doesn't want to be a family man any longer and wants to see how far he can push you before you'll kick him out . You need to decide what's best for you and your children .
You make the choice not him . Good luck .

Exactly.

If he wants to go on holiday every few months with his mates, he can do it when he's single.

Leave him

Holy shit this is bad. He thinks you ate his live in nanny and housekeeper. So you have no choice in his holiday schedule.

Leave him, get child support, and start to live life independently. He will force you out eventually.

Who the hell does he think he is? Move on from him, God knows what he's getting up to on these trips.

So he has told you he wants to live like a single man. Drinking and womanising with his pals is more important to him than you and his children.
I think your relationship is over OP.

Are you sure it's mates he's going away with?

He’s clearly single and you need to adjust the rest of your life to match. I’m sorry, it must be a shock, but you’d be an absolute doormat to do anything other than tell him it’s done.

Either you accept it, or you leave him. He has made his position very clear.

Selfish bastard. Do you need him for money? Have you got children? If not, get rid of him? If so find a lover who respects you.

Excellent and I agree

Only you can decide whether you are willing to live like this

He has made his position perfectly clear

he says if I have a problem he can just leave me, that he wants to just live his life now

Basically, he wants to be single, but he doesn’t want to be the bad guy who leaves his family. So instead he’s acting like a selfish shit and hoping you pull the plug instead.

Sorry; I failed to note you have children. So sad you have a complete a-hole in tow. People imagine women have equality today. I doubt it.

Just book your holiday and tell him when you are going and that he can look after the children.

I bet you £10 he'll be on the phone arranging for his mother/sister/aunt/cousin/lady from the corner shop to come and look after them while you are away.

“he says if I have a problem he can just leave me”

This line tells you everything you need to know about how he views you and your family. What a complete shit stain of a man, I’m furious on your behalf.

Why do you put up with this?!

Boyfriend.
clearly isn’t partner.
probably should have given your relationship a bit more solidity before becoming parents.

How old are your children? Do you have means to support yourself?

You would be better off as a single parent claiming maintenance and getting down time while he has the kids.

3 kids with no marriage?. You shot your self in the foot with that

He’s no Partner just an entitled father of your children OP ! What a terrible example he’s setting to your kids