Relationship Advice

[CassieMay2]

Hi everyone,

After some advice.

I recently met a guy who I get on really well with, I'm cautious of starting a relationship with him as he has 2 children from his first marriage and a child from his second relationship. I know this may make me sound very shallow but is this too much to take on? I have dated guys with children before but never more than 2 children and the children have always been from the same relationship.

Financially this guy is stable so the finance aspect doesn't bother me, I don't have children myself but I do love children.

Just wondered if anyone else has been in a relationship with someone similar and how they found it.

It is quite a lot. How does he seem when he talks about it? Does he blame both mothers or does he take some responsibility himself? Is he a good dad to all his kids? Those are the things I’d be looking at.

He's a brilliant dad and has no bad words to say about the mothers. I just find it overwhelming but wasn't sure if I was being shallow

It’s still a lot but that would be very reassuring. I think you need to give it a bit of time and make your own call before you’re in too deep.

That’s quite a lot of juggling as they grow up. His issue not yours, but do you want to get sucked in, this will likely impact you quite a lot if you stay together. I’d call it quits now tbh. If you do decide to give it a go, then set boundaries right up front, do not end up running around after his kids, his ex’s etc!

Hi all, Im after some advice please. A few months ago l I was away with my current GF. I was speaking with my ex via text about our girls and she was feeling exhausted and overwhelmed as she is on her own. I reassured her and said that she the best mum I could ask for to my girls. This comment has since caused a lot of unrest in my current relationship and my current gf doesn’t see a way past it, meaning we can’t continue. She is dealing with a recent passing of a family member, but she has mentioned that she is struggling to get past it before. I love this girl so much, what can I do?