Failed IVF - first round

[EllieH1991]

Hi all,
We've just found out our first round of IVF has failed. Things seemed quite positive; our fertility is unexplained, we're in our early 30s, and they'd been able to get 18 follicles > 14 eggs > 11 embryos > 9 blastocysts. We've had friends get pregnant first time, so naively assumed all would be OK and kept ourselves full of hope rather than realism.
Anyway, fast forward to day 12 post embryo transfer and for some reason I decided to test the day before I was advised to. We had a faint blue line, then a definitive positive (1-2 weeks) on a digital test. But the next two days have produced negatives, and now, 14 days post embryo transfer, I've got a tiny bit of brown blood.
We're both devastated as we really thought it had worked, and the thought of going through everything again is unbearable.
I'm just looking for some advice in coping and getting myself mentally prepared to go again.
This is my first post, so sorry if too long and a bit all over the place (like my head atm), but any support would be hugely appreciated.

Was it a fresh transfer?

Frozen transfers have higher success rates plus your body would have recovered properly from the egg collection.

All is not lost, dust off and try again. We found success on our second round.

Could maybe have been a chemical pregnancy. Have the clinic suggested a HCG blood test? You’ve a fab number of Frosties behind you.

You will get there.

Sorry to hear this, I was in a similar position like you and was gutted when it didn’t work first time. Have you got 8 frozen then? If so that’s a very good number. I think testing early though has shown that it did actually stick even if for a short while so you are nearly there. It might not have lasted because the embryo was not compatible with life so might not be down to you. Also on my subsequent tries the consultant adjusted my prescription to help before I did eventually get my miracle and hoping you get yours too 💐

When my second round of IVF failed I was in pieces. The doctors had made various tweaks after the first round, and my mind had convinced itself that the second round would work. When it didn't, I lost all hope that it would ever work.

Does your IVF clinic offer counselling? My did, and talking it through helped.

Be kind to yourself, take time, regroup and I hope you go on to success in the future.

As an aside, it was third time lucky for me.

Thank you all for replying so quickly and your kind words ❤lovely to hear some of you got your miracle in the end.

I'll reply to the questions all in 1, hope that's OK.

It was a fresh transfer that we had, I think 5 days between harvest and transfer. I've read frozen can be more successful, so hoping that we have more luck there.

Yes, we have 8, so I know really really fortunate, need to keep focusing on that, but I'm also no worried that whatever was the issue here may be in all of them.

We told the clinic about the positive and negatives yesterday, and they suggested waiting until today to test again. We had another negative this morning, but they're closed for the weekend, so will have to wait until Monday to speak to them. A tiny bit of me is hoping a blood test would show otherwise, but I've now had 7 negatives and one positive (all on morning wee - got a bit obsessed)

And I will definitely pick up with the clinic counsellor, thank you.

Thank you all so much, really really appreciate it, and sorry that others have been through this, it's horrible.