Ex friend being beaten up

[Coolcool1996]

So I’ve recently parted ways with a best friend of 14 years to due to her being awful towards me.

shortly before I fell out with her her now boyfriend beat her up in front of her son and daughter (daughter is too somebody else) too which she had too call the police and he got arrested..she showed me videos and the videos are horrifying. Her boyfriend broke her daughters bed whilst she left in it and pushed her 9 month old son off the bed in the process of beating her up..in the video she showed me her 9 month old son was lying at the side of the bed on a mountain of Stella cans crying hysterically. She rang the police and the social services got involved and they asked if he was coming back she said no.. later that day after he was let out of the police station he was back, I told her I was worried for her and her children..after that we fell out and I am now stuck worrying about the fact that her daughters dad has no clue about this and her daughter is 3 years old.. when the police turned up the day after she was beaten up her daughter was running round the room screaming “help me”.. I really want to let her daughters dad know but I don’t want her too think I’m doing this out of spite..I’m genuinely concerned about this

Can you contact social services again and tell them he's back?

This is terribly worrying. What do you know about the father? Is he likely to be any help in this situation? She won’t like you doing it but telling the father seems like the right thing to do. He should know the situation his children are being exposed to.

And I agree with @Josette77. Tell SS he’s back.

Can you let social services know that he's back? Those young children are at serious risk.

they have said they is no cause for concern as the children look well looked after.. I don’t know what more I can do. Every time they ring her too tell they are going he leaves and they make out like aren’t together

I know the father quite well I have reached out too the father but being blocked which I think is due too him asking her why I’m contacting and her telling him to block me.. I have contacted SS but they have said they is no cause for concern as the children are well looked after

I have let them know and every time they let her know they’re going out too see her he leaves and she says she’s not with him anymore

That's incredibly frustrating.

How do you know he doesn't know. I would have thought social services would have told him.
Who is the father of the 9 month old ?

Awful situation, I can see why you're concerned. I wouldn't care what your ex- friend thinks, I would do what I thought was in the best interest of the children.
Odd why her ex would block you. Is there more to this?

I'd contact the police. He might very well be breaking bail conditions by being there

This is not a dig at you op , anyone who knocks a baby out of the way to get to their target is one extremely dangerous individual.
Social services need to get right to the heart of what's going on because this could easily be a headline case with the usual lessons have been learned once it's too late.

He definitely doesn’t know as she told me she was worried about him finding out. The father of the 9 month old is her boyfriend that beat her up.

i am so concerned over it and the video I saw is honestly horrifying I have contacted SS and they have said they’re not concerned as the children are well looked after and they’re not living together but I know they are as the house she lives in is the house he owns.

i contacted the father of her daughter asking him too give me a call he gave me a call on Facebook messenger which I had missed due to being at work when I finished I had being blocked. My thought is he will of messaged her asking why I was contacting and she’s told him to block me because we have fallen out but knowing what I was wanting to talk to him about if that makes sense? I’m unsure why he’s blocked me but that’s my guess

I have contacted them and they’re apparently not worried as the children are “well looked after” I don’t know what else too do. She lies about living with him

I would report again and underline she's lying about her relationship with him and tell them about those videos, he's a danger to all of them.clean clothes and well-fed,clean house when social services come calling doesn't cut it .those children are in serious danger as is your ex friend and she's playing a dangerous game.

This is horrific.
Thank you for being the voice for those poor wee children.
I'd send the dad the video with a warning of its contents prior.
I'd put it in writing that you know about her partner still being on the scene and once again send the video attached to an email.
If you know her parents, involve them, any siblings.

Your friendship is dead and this isn't spite.
Ultimately you can't have your pal and her kids potential death on your conscience.
Involve everyone this is relevant to and maybe seek some help to process what you've seen in the video.

Social services are so stretched that more and more cases are being ignored.
I reported someone recently and was told similar to yourself about all being OK. The child I was concerned regarding is still in the care of the people I reported despite recently having had almost 2 weeks in hospital due to complications from abuse and neglect. A social worker is now involved but no action is being taken to remove the child because simply, they've nowhere to put her.

Do what you can and let the friendship go, if this ex pal of yours has a way to leave but is too scared then that's horrible and I've sadly witnessed this first hand, but I've also witnessed a mother prioritise men over her children and those now children are very fucked up adults due to mums poor choices.

I'm sorry for you in this situation and even if little girls dad and get her out the situation, at least one of them is safe.

Again, thanks for trying. Safeguarding is everyone's job and business x

Write letters. To the 3yr olds father. To police. To social services. To the children's grandparents/aunts/uncles if you have the address. To their nursery if they attend one. Beyond that I don't think there's anything you can do. Letters are often taken more seriously than phone calls in life because they're harder to ignore or downplay, what with it all being there in writing.