Can't tolerate drunk people -am I boring??

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I always used to drink alcohol, but over the years my body has lost its tolerance and now a single glass of wine makes me sick. Therefore it's just easier to not drink lol.

However, now I'm not drinking, I've found myself become really sensitive and intolerant of those around me that do drink and get drunk. (This obviously doesn't include those having just one or two, but people who cross over to the tipsy/drink side).

I just spent a few days away with some friends, who claim they don't really drink anymore yet spent the whole time either drinking or complaining of a hangover. Evenings for me were not fun, conversations made no sense and the loudness and language used was just embarrassing. Being the only one not drunk really highlighted how different our ideas of fun were. At one point one of my friends called me boring when she was drunk as I didn't feel like dancing and was happy to watch. I can't deny that this hurt me, but shrugged it off as it was "drunk banter"

My husband had friends over last night after spending all day down the pub. After saying he'd take it easy as he was playing football today, he was slurring as soon as he walked through the door, then denied he was drunk (to him drunk means falling over in a head your own vomit lol). I ended up spending the evening angry as I just hate the slurring, swaying and smell of stale booze.

I'd never deny people having a drink and having fun, but I just don't want to be around it anymore. I just find that every event or trip out I go on or get invited to involves people getting smashed. I just want a nice day out, no drink, and and an early night 😂

Is there anyone else that feels this way, or am I just boring now 😪?

I can't be doing with drunk people or environments either. It's definitely not boring, drunken idiots are irritating as fuck.

I like a glass or two of wine, but don't like being drunk. I find drunk people boring TBH.

Of course YANBU!! When you are sober you realise just how bloody tedious, repetitive and boorish most people are after a few drinks. I include myself in that bracket too when I’ve had a few!

It’s really eye opening just how obnoxious people get after a few drinks. Awful.

Yes it's one of the things I've noticed whilst I'm TTC... I don't mind when people have a few but I get so bored being sober while everyone is drunk 🥴

Yep. That's why I call alcohol a twat amplifier 😁 I don't really drink anymore, got a toddler and completely agree that it's tedious conversing with drunk people

You arent boring lol.

What's "boring" is listening to people drone on and on about their stupid drunken opinions with red wine teeth whilst they get way too close to you and breathe alcohol fumes all over you.

There is literally nothing worse than being sober amongst a group of heavy drinkers. I've heard the same tired old stories told over and over and over again from people when they are pissed. Its boring AF.

If people want to drink thats fine but honestly, it really is boring listening to them go on and on about the same thing you've heard the last time you went out with them.

Thanks everyone!! I feel a whole lot better about myself now 😂😂

I feel the same as you! I tend to focus on friends who don’t drink much either now.

I can't be doing with drunken behaviour either.

I don't mind someone having a few as long as they are coherent, happy, chilled out and not angry, talking rubbish, feeling ill either then or the following day.

I just think I'm happy enough in my own reality that I don't need to try and feel different.

I like to have one or two myself for relaxation maybe once in six weeks at home watching tv or in a local place with friends.

Hate drunks. With a passion. I'd never date a drinker again.

Yeah, I don't mind people being a bit tipsy but hate drunkeness. My husband doesn't drink often, but when he does he gets drunk and it just bugs me. He's a perfectly nice drunk, I just don't have patience for it.

No, you're not alone - I also find drunk people extremely tedious these days!

Menopause came along with a sulphite sensitivity for me, so I just can't drink wine now, and while I'm happy having a gin and tonic at the beginning of the evening, I don't want to knock back several, and I find that hosts tend to forget to offer you a second drink anyway unless you're drinking wine.
The men especially don't realise how awful they become when they're drunk - loud, boorish etc - yuk!

They are the boring ones, not you

I find drunk people intensely tedious and annoying

I’m the same. I can’t drink much now due to perimenopause. I’m suffering badly with my sleep and alcohol just makes it worse. I’m not bothered what other people want to do but drinkers don’t seem to like it if you don’t want to have any more than one or two drinks, it’s like they need you to be wrecked to enjoy your company.

Do you think this will become an issue in your marriage? I believe it could be quite tricky being teetotal if alcohol has always been a part of your social and family life in the past. It’s definitely not being boring to avoid alcohol, but it may mean changing how you spend time with friends.

Luckily he is very understanding of the fact that I can't or don't want to drink. He has offered to quit for a month as of today as he knows I hate it, but I think that's the hangover talking 😂😂 will see if he's still t-total in 2 weeks time

Annoyingly I'm the only one in my friendship group that doesn't drink, which is why I'm paranoid that I'm a complete bore. I have one friend that claims she can't drink anymore due to menopause, but after spending nearly a week with her that's definitely not the case 😂.

I don’t drink much but in my twenties I did and was stupid when drunk. Now I also can’t tolerate drunk people.

Nothing is more boring than a drunk person.

OMG the alcohol breath 😂 I snapped after a flight where friends drank Prosecco and got very loud the whole way. When we landed I couldn't help but tell them they stink... in my defense, I was knackered and had to drive everyone home from the airport at 2am... and they did stink of stale booze 😂

Drunks when you are sober are very irritating. I’m currently pregnant and went out for a catch up with friends a while ago. It was painful and after a while just dull. Everyone talking over me, I couldn’t get a word in. Everyone talking absolute crap. For
example Suggesting silly/terrible baby names which is funny for 5 minutes but 30m of it I just wanted to put my headphones on! I presume I’m the same after lots to drink!

I don't drink now and haven't really for many years - maybe thirty odd years, since I had my children who are now late thirties. I am now divorced but my inlaws were great drinkers, and of course I was always driving as my ex could then drink and I cannot tell you the number of utterly tedious evenings I have spent just willing it to be time to go home. Just putting up with their comments which the next day they would claim not to remember, or say weren't true and were just due to the drink. Yes it was extremely eye-opening. It was telling too that the comments they made to/about me whilst drunk were always what I had privately suspected they really thought. So now I always believe what people tell me when they've had a few now. Drink doesn't make you a liar, it just takes away your inhibitions.

@PermanentlyTired03 Oh god the talking over you is irritating isn't it?!

@kittylion2 Nothing worse than being automatically assigned the designated driver. I'm always straight up now and say that I'll take you there, but I'm not taking you home as no doubt I'll be leaving early!

no your not alone and its all about respect for other people which doesn't sound like your friends were giving you much off.ive had the same on works xmas parties where some people have been so drunk it spoiled the evening for the rest.no one should ever feel pressured into drinking alcohol ,you wouldn't force someone to smoke to take drugs so it shouldn't be any different with booze.