Hi!
I can't find any threads like this or any support for people who have been through similar. I'd appreciate any advice about support groups for families or information or if there is a thread already on here?
I'd love to hear from other families affected by this. In particular grandchildren and children of women directly affected.
In my case it is my mother who was one of these babies and it's had a massive impact on her and in turn on me. On our bond as mother and daughter, my bond with my children etc
I don't know anyone else with this background so I don't have anyone to talk to about it.
My mum is very psychologically damaged but won't access any type of mental health support. She says it hasn't affected her because she was under 1yo when she was adopted so can't remember what went on. But it very clearly has affected her. It was also a massive shock to me as the family kept it a secret. I was a teenager when my mum found out that our family aren't our biological family. Her bio mum had been looking fir her since the nuns took her away. They had told her she could come back for her baby once she married. She was only 17 at the time. When she went back her baby (my mum) had been given away.
I'd just like to hear from people with similar experiences because sometimes I feel quite alone. I feel my mum is unable to trust or bond with other human beings.
I have a lot of sadness and anger. I also feel a lot of shame constantly. My mum won't acknowledge or talk about any of it.
I met my real grandma and she has many mental health issues now.
I do have other bio family members I met and keep in touch with but I feel like everyone is essentially a stranger..
I felt that about the adoptive family before we even knew my mum was adopted. We are both very very different to them. I felt like there was something wrong with me because I felt like an alien. God knows what my mother felt as she won't discuss it.
It's just me and her as I'm an only child and my dad died a while back. In trying to be there for her now it has thrown a lot of these things up for me. There were a lot of lies and a lot of shame and sadness.