Please tell me it’s worth it?

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Hi, currently 33wks with my first. I have been completely humbled by pregnancy, I knew it would be hard but I have hated every moment of it. I have felt awful and exhausted the whole way through which makes me feel useless as I can’t do anything that I used to do.

I was really looking forward to meeting my baby but the closer I get to due date the more people are telling me how awful postpartum is, how dreadful the night feeds are, how horrendous breastfeeding is, how tired I’ll always be, how much my kids will annoy me and generally just how awful parenting is. It’s coming from everywhere, friends, family, strangers, social media and it’s really starting to get me down. I know this is going to be hard, I’m not delusional, but can someone please tell me it’s worth it?

I loved my life before getting prego, my husband and I are very happy, work was great and I really wanted a kid to add to it. 2 years of fertility treatment later, we got there. But now I have the horrible feeling I’ve messed it all up. Please help me be excited to meet my child again.
xx

Night feeds were my favorite 🙂 There's a real stillness and opportunity to bond with your little person that hits different in the dead of night. Every baby and mum are different, you won't know how it is for you until you get there. But there's no reason for it to be awful. Be as chilled as you can, and enjoy the new experience. I didn't find it awful at all, I'd love to rewind to newborn days 🙂

Ah, Op. The trouble is, because everyone used to lie about motherhood, the pendulum has now swung the other way.
So let me just say this - if it goes well (not perfectly, but ok type well) and you bond ok with your baby (which MOST women do just naturally) the love and happiness you feel is like no other. And will make everything worth it.
No guarantees but I hope you get this.
Good luck and stop listening to other people. They're only trying to protect you - but you don't need it at the moment, you need peace and quiet and to tune in to yourself.

You are bringing new life into the world, it is a wonderful amazing thing. Almost magical. You've wonderful times ahead of you❤️.
Not all easy mind....

Look, it is hard at times. And it is overwhelming too. I will admit there were moments when i wondered if I'd made the right choice.

But it's also wonderful. Mine are 4 and 6 years old now, and I still miss those middle of the night tiny baby snuggles, where the world is so peaceful and it's just the two of you.

What makes the difference is having a good team. Make sure your DH is going to step up and work as hard as you at the parenting, and that the two of you are equal partners in it all.

Don't forget that if it was all as awful as everyone is telling you, they would all have only children!

Just to add as well, that my kids are now the funniest, most interesting, loving, kind affectionate lovely little people, and I love having them in my life. They make me wonder and learn new things every day. They drive me nuts as well, but there is a lot of joy in having them. The balance is definitely in favour of the good.

Thank you all, I really needed to hear that today

You seem to mixing with a lot of doom mongers who are delighting in making you anxious.
Of course motherhood is hard work but the joy your child will bring you is 100% worth it.