Why am I so hurt?

[Lillyundermoon]

Hi Everyone!

my husband of 15yrs decided that we should eat out with my 9year old child too. We went out I was choosing my food he saw the prices on the menu and walked out of the takeaway with child into another food place to get his and child’s food. Leaving me to pay for my own. It was £15, by the time my food was ready he had already eaten and I had to bring mine home. But I’m so hurt that he walked out to avoid paying for my food. I felt so horrible, I usually pay for my share but I have made it known to him it would be nice for him to treat me but when ever I mention this, he starts his story of how hard he works etc. I feel like he doesn’t care about me and I’m just slaving away cooking and cleaning for him with a full time job. I don’t know how I should be feeling.

He does sound very inconsiderate. Have you been married long? Is he the father of your child?

I'm sorry you feel hurt, I would too.

I've never heard of married couples each paying 'their share' of a takeout meal, apart from his bloody rudeness and evidently taking you and all the work you do for granted.

This doesn't sound like he thinks marriage is a partnership of equals who love and respect each other.

Angry OP. That's how you should be feeling.
That is just dreadful behaviour by your DH: to just walk out and go elsewhere with your child and just leave you there! And that's even without the money meanness.
He's supposed to be your loving partner and he treated you as though he didn't even know you,just leaving you there.
I think I would be seriously considering what future I had with an ignorant man like him.

Wow, that’s so rude!!! I’d be very annoyed

That is bizarre and anti-social behaviour. Is he normally this rude and strange?

This is a very confusing story. Your husband panicked in a takeout after you had ordered and ran away with your child to a cheaper establishment?

how incredibly odd. Did he explain why or just disappear? Where did they go that they were able to order and eat before your food was ready?

His behaviour sounds unhinged. Does he hold down a job? What is he like socially? Can he interact with your family, friends, your child’s school etc?

That's so fucking rude. That'd mark the last time I cooked or cleaned for him.

That is both rude and bizarre.

Bizarre how the first response showed they hadn't even read the op's thread.. Dh of 15 years. Dc is 9.

HTH.