This is my first thread so please be kind, im in a pickle and I need some mum advice.... so im a mum to a 3 year old boy who i had to endure IVF for which in itself, broke me, going through this during a pandemic also wasn't nice but I did it and my son came along. I suffered with my mental health when I was pregnant and diagnosed with Perinatal OCD, then when my son was born it wasn't the nicest of experiences, it was very traumatic leading to an emergency c section and me becoming very unwell afterwards, then I was diagnosed with PND. I already suffer with ADHD and anxiety so as you can imagine it's been a tough journey. When I met my sons father, and met his family, let's say it wasn't the warmest of welcomes but it was civil. As the months went by his mum in particular and sister were awfully unkind to me, his sister was fraudulently claiming benefits and someone had reported her, I was accused of this, she made my life hell making up vicious rumours about me and trying to get my partner (her brother) to break up with me. This all happened when myself and my partner where in my house, he was receiving messages from his sister accusing me of "snitching" on her and also how I was a money grabber, liar, slag amongst other things. She also made an accusation I was a prostitute. That night we drove to his parents house and his sister was there, as we entered the front room, I was walking behind my partner and could overhear his sister calling me all the slags under the sun, when she noticed I was there she got up and started hurling abuse at me, she also stated I was lying about my infertility which is untrue and disgusting, as you can imagine I defended myself, and was extremely upset, then my partners mum and dad got up called me a lair, his dad grabbed my arm and tried to escort me out of the house, my then partner got into an altercation with his dad and I left the house in bits. Is mum and dad said I was no longer welcome around the family home. Since then, his sister apologised to me and stated she should never of accused me etc, and I forgave and tried to move on for the sake of my partner as he's very family orientated and they can't do no wrong in his eyes. I have never had an apology off his parents. Fast forward once it cooled down, a civil relationship was formed, but everytime I saw his mum she would make comments about my dress sence, how I would apply my make up and general digs which were unnecessary, everutime I spoke to my partner about this, he shut me down and defended them making me feel alone and unsupported. Ivf began, I tried to include his family as much as possible as I knew my partner wanted them so I put my big girl pants on and cracked on so to speak. The comments still continued, my partner and I would argue alot. He wasn't having my back at all. His sister was invited to scans and we included them in our gender reveal. When my son was born, and experienced the trauma I did, not once did they help out. They watched me suffer. His sister would always promise to come help, and spent time with the baby, this never happened, cancellations and stupid excuses as to why she couldn't see my son, his parents where the same yet watching them spend time with the other grandkids singling mine out. I was getting angry at this point. Its one thing treating me this way but I wasn't allowing my innocent baby to be subject to this toxic behaviour. At 6 weeks old, my son was rushed to hospital with RSV Bronchiolitis and almost died, he was tube fed and on oxygen for a week, not once did his family send a message, offer support or anything. I was furious, again my partner defended their actions. Again we rowed. I felt so alone. All I wanted was my son to have his family around and support. After a few months of this continuous behaviour I'd had enough, I told my partner to have a word, he never did and it just got worse. So I spoke up and defended myself and this got turned into me being unstable and weird as they called me amongst other things. We all fell out again as I was sick of them letting my son down and not being there for him. Since the fall out, bare in mind no one has maintained any relationship with my son birthday and Xmas they send cards but leave the cards at my partners mums house, they do not ask to see my son or even make an effort to give his presents to him directly. The message happy birthday days later also. I told ny partner if they can't be bothered to see him or even make an effort for him then they will no longer be involved as I've tried my hardest with them all and the years of abuse I was still allowing them access to my son. Anyway nearly 3 years on, not one member of his family sister, mum, dad brother have tried to make an effort to see my son on his birthday or Xmas. The only time my sons grandparents see him is when my sons dad has him for the weekend as we are now separated and have been for almost a year due to all of this with his family and him not having my back or respecting my wishes. Again this year, my son turned 3, not one visit, birthday cards are still at his mother's house, my son is SEN and possibly ASD (awaiting assessments) and I do not want this confusion upsetting him. In my eyes they have zero relationships with him, why send cards, for me to then habe to explain they are from his family. I'm waiting for the day my son asks who these people are as he doesn't know them from Adam. I want to stop these people contscting my son, but my sons dad is not supportive of this (shock) and has since snook behind ny back to take my son to see his sister, disrespecting my wishes again. His sister then took great pleasure in telling me how she's been seeing my son behind my back for weeks and laughed at me. Shes also since called me a bad mother and I don't take care of my son. Which is untrue. I do everything for my son plus more. I just want them out of our lives, I don't want my son around these people who disrespect me and also him by the way they do not bother with him. I want to stop them sending cards and presents as its just causing upset every year and confusion to my son. I am trying to teach him not to accept anything from strangers and although they are "family" they are strangers to him. My partners brother contacts my sons dad once a year to wish my son happy birthday and sends a card but thats it, the other 364 days hes no where to be seen same with his sister. Theyve never offered to take him out spend time with him and because of the fallout they have all refused to come to any birthday parties etc for him because I will be there. I need some advice guys. This is not even the half of it but I've had enough. My sons dad is very defensive over his family and anything I say about them in a discussion leads to a row. I've had enough. My sons dad and I co parent our son best we can and get along great, but aside from this its hell. Its the only thing we row about and it broke our family up. What should I do..